[honour]

This person committed suicide because she sent the text to the wrong person, not because she was a cheater. If she had sent the text to whom it was intended may be she would have fulfilled her stated wish and done, "this more often."

So are you saying she took the pills because she was embarrassed that much by the text that she did something a final as commit suicide?

How would you explain it?

[Rebel Yell]

If she didn't get caught, would she have done that?

[hobo1]

Totally disagree with any comment about removing post, or that we should not discuss sensitive topics.  My opinion of limiting discussions of certain topics as being too sensitive or viewing differing opinions because it may not be right for certain LBSers is completely condescending, elitist and oozes of censorship.

What's to stop a vulnerable LBSer from reading this from another website?  If it's not something I want to read, I just won't read it.  If I don't agree with a poster, I may write a comment indicating my disagreement, or I may ignore it...  I'm an LBSer, and I'm not offended if I read something I disagree with.

[in it]

I've had some pretty embarrassing moments in my life but a misdirected text to the exh ( even when he was the H) saying that in a message?

 I don't think would cause me to kill myself. I'd have to worry more about him killing me.

Good question RY..I'd think probably not..he'd find out some other way.

HoBo1 GOOD! We were just considering some LBS's are more sensitive.

[Thundarr]

First off, I don't blame the H whatsoever nor do I agree with some topics being "too sensitive."  For Heavens sake after what we've all been through I doubt much would even rattle us.  We're adults who are responsible for taking care of ourselves.  My intention was to point out that things COULD be worse than they already are, and this is the reality for many in this world.  Be thankful that at least your MLCer is still living whether or not you want them back.

[HeartTattoo]

I am not a big fan of Emotional Affair Journey, they're mostly focused on how to reconnect after various types of affairs, & mention MLC very little if at all, but I think this article presented a useful scenario related to FOO issues.  One of the biggest mysteries to me has been how my H turned his back on me after a long, satisfying marriage to take up infidelity with an OW he met online & just walk out the door.  The concept of rescue (knight in tarnished armor) is not new to anyone who has read RCR's articles, but this article confirms that the feelings the MLCer has for the OP isn't about the OP at all, but serve as a trigger related to FOO experiences of rescue.  The feelings associated with rescue are powerful & point back to intense FOO experiences.  My H's FOO wasn't as cut & dried as this one, but I observed him in inappropriate rescue behavior many, many years ago.  That it crops up again at this level of intensity is "bat$h!te crazy" to borrow Stayed's favorite phrase (& to avoid my favorite expletive  ).

http://www.emotionalaffair.org/origin-of-emotional-affairs/

[kikki]

Thanks for posting HT - makes a lot of sense and backs up what my H has said
'we got on well instantly - guess it had to do with our terrible childhoods'
'I had to rescue her from her awful relationship'

[StillStanding]

This looks like an MLC affair that went sour. I wonder what the timeline for this relationship was?

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/02/to-the-millennial-i-left-my-wife-for-and-8-parting-words-of-advice/

Those first months were exciting and scary. Nights in dark dive bars to avoid coworkers, dancing on the dock of the river, and kisses stolen in an elevator, were all magical and addictive. We never seemed to run out of things to talk about, and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.

Yet soon the realities of our situation set in. The early puppy love turned serious and differences emerged from the shadows. You were finishing college, looking for jobs, and beginning to become an adult. I was going through a major life transition and adjusting to dating, and dating someone much younger.

We discovered that our common backgrounds also forged common problems. Anger, doubt and fear infected our relationship. We both agreed to change, to work through the problems together. I began seeing a therapist, I read books and articles, and I did everything I could to make myself worthy of your love. You encouraged me and acknowledged how much I was changing. But our fights turned louder and uglier. We both hurled insults that demoralized and left lasting scars.

Despite all my progress, I made many mistakes. I threatened to expose how we got started when you threatened to leave. I held on to jealousy for no reason, I had moments of neediness, and I said things that hurt, things I regretted the next day and regret still. I wish I had changed faster, that I had transitioned from marriage into dating more seamlessly. It haunts me because I know it was the final deal breaker.

EDIT: I split this into its own thread because I didn't want the discussion to get lost. -SS

[Reinventing]

This looks like an MLC affair that went sour. I wonder what the timeline for this relationship was?

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/02/to-the-millennial-i-left-my-wife-for-and-8-parting-words-of-advice/



That was interesting to read. Looks like it lasted a year. Yes, this is definitely MLC sounding and interesting that the OW cheated on him, that his ex-wife tells him that time heals wounds, and that he still sounds like a teenager in his last paragraph.

[StillStanding]

That was interesting to read. Looks like it lasted a year. Yes, this is definitely MLC sounding and interesting that the OW cheated on him, that his ex-wife tells him that time heals wounds, and that he still sounds like a teenager in his last paragraph.

There is now a response in the comments from someone who claims to be the millenial that the author was writing to:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/02/to-the-millennial-i-left-my-wife-for-and-8-parting-words-of-advice/#comment-1267967607