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#40: December 02, 2013, 06:16:50 PM
NOW I got trouble sleeping ! Go to bed at 10- wide awake at 2 AM!! Pisses me off!!
Did manage a couple of more hours this morning and a nap..gotta go get ready for BED!!
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Re: SLEEP
#41: December 02, 2013, 06:30:24 PM
It's funny. The first few weeks after BD, I had an absolutely dreadful time trying to sleep. It would take forever to fall asleep, and when I finally did, I would wake up every. single. hour. Things eventually leveled out, I got used to being in the bed alone, and have slept pretty well since. Until now. A couple of nights ago, it started again - trouble falling asleep and waking up several times. MLC - the gift that keeps on giving!
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Re: SLEEP
#42: December 05, 2013, 02:20:52 PM
Well let's see if we can't just exchange that gift for some peace and rest.
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Re: SLEEP
#43: December 06, 2013, 08:18:38 AM
Not sleeping enough was on of my major problems: 0-4h sleep per day for a long period after OM1 and OM2 and even when I was sleeping more, the quality was bad (sweating, talking, wakening, turning around...). I had to ask help from a psychiatrist because it was making me dysfunctional in my daily life and got prescribed an SSRI that is bad antidepressant but was proven excellent to get back my sleep. That said, I don't like and certainly do not recommend drugs; in my case this was necessary. I still do but reduced the dose.

With W we get used to drink lightly BUT with every meal and every night which became a sort of addiction. However, alcohol though it helps to get to sleep it deteriorates further the quality as it is known to cause urination and dehydration. I am planning to stop for a while alcohol and coffee just to see the effects.

Physical activity is key: I used to do sports at semi-pro level and hitting back the gym so I can play my old sport was the best reward. I also try to do as much as I can in the garden. My mind finds peace while I rake franticly leaves for hours, or split logs. All this stress is channelled to something useful for my body and my mind and adds easily some extra hours of sleep.
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Re: SLEEP
#44: December 06, 2013, 08:36:19 AM
I tried PM tablets after the ex's father died..used them for three nights then all of a sudden I was WIDE AWAKE. Was thinking about trying Zquill now.

I don't usually have a drink... sleep pattern is all over the place with that..and yes getting up to use the bathroom IF I drink too much. ::)

I'm up at 4 AM so but 3 PM I'm shot and ready for a nap! Sometimes I take one earlier. I love naps!

I have no problem getting to sleep it's STAYING asleep!!

 I use Hershey kisses to ease my mind..and help me relax.

I know I need more excrsise..I'm avoiding that like the plague....
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

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Re: SLEEP
#45: January 01, 2014, 05:33:47 PM
Well the holidays are over..I hope everybody can now get some rest and sleep.
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

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Re: SLEEP
#46: January 14, 2014, 04:00:32 AM
It's taken me ages to find this thread again.
I came across this article this morning and thought it might of help for the new comers more particularly.
About napping:
http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/how-long-to-nap-for-the-biggest-brain-benefits/

There are other interesting article on that site, too.
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Re: SLEEP
#47: January 14, 2014, 04:24:11 AM
I am a firm believer in NAPS!
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: SLEEP
#48: January 14, 2014, 05:04:52 AM
thanks for posting this againBoo Boo I not that new but still struggling sleeping so will take a look and I know In it great for posting things that are helpful

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Re: SLEEP
#49: January 30, 2014, 04:35:07 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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