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Mirror-Work Something for Men
OP: October 13, 2013, 12:42:55 AM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#1: October 13, 2013, 03:34:44 AM
http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/top-10-qualities-men-are-secretly-looking-women

Is there anything here that your MLcer was before BD?

If not can you see her trying to develope that now?

These traits are also what I look for in a relationship..not necessarily in the order they are listed here. My number 1 would be HONESTY.

  I don't know if this is set up to be numbered by importance for men in general..what would each of you say was the 1-10 order of importance for YOU!

 Feel free to add anything else that isn't included that you feel is important.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#2: October 13, 2013, 04:54:06 AM
Quote from: in it on October 13, 2013, 03:34:44 AM
http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/top-10-qualities-men-are-secretly-looking-women

Is there anything here that your MLcer was before BD?

If not can you see her trying to develope that now?

These traits are also what I look for in a relationship..not necessarily in the order they are listed here. My number 1 would be HONESTY.

  I don't know if this is set up to be numbered by importance for men in general..what would each of you say was the 1-10 order of importance for YOU!

 Feel free to add anything else that isn't included that you feel is important.

Most of these lists are way off the mark, all most guys want is a loyal woman who's is attractive to him, doesn't expect him to read her mind and is a joy to spend time with.
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Re: Something for Men II
#3: October 13, 2013, 04:59:10 AM
OK..the former mlcer I dealt with was none of these so I will go first in what I feel is the most important to ME

TOP TWO

HONEST & INTELLIGENT

Confident
Supportive
Independent- non-materialistic ( as am I)
Sensual
Playful ( and that does NOT include pissing me off just to make me angry because someone thinks it's "cute")
Spontaneous
Laid back
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#4: October 13, 2013, 05:01:21 AM
So BH

 You are pretty much as long as they stick it out through hell or high water and remain loyal no matter whatever happens you are ok with that?

It's that simple?
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#5: October 13, 2013, 03:26:54 PM
Quote from: in it on October 13, 2013, 05:01:21 AM
So BH

 You are pretty much as long as they stick it out through hell or high water and remain loyal no matter whatever happens you are ok with that?

It's that simple?

All I ever wanted was that the woman I loved would have my back and I her's through whatever life threw at us. I got to have that for almost half my life and two great kids, for that I will be forever grateful.
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Re: Something for Men II
#6: October 13, 2013, 03:39:27 PM
http://www.nurseslearning.com/courses/nrp/NRPCX-W0009/html/body.humor.page7.htm

This goes into how different professions etc use humor to deal with stress. Something we can all use more of in order to combat what's going on.

I have to admit some of the funniest stuff I have ever read has been posted on this board. I can always find a belly laugh when I really need it.

In my own experience in witnessing humor in a fatal situation:

My childhood friend was dying of cancer.
I went to visit her. Everyone who visited knew she was dying.
This dip $h!te walks in who worked with my friend and said:

"Oh Honey ...how are you feeling?"

To which my friend replied

" I've been better"
           ::)
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#7: October 13, 2013, 03:56:10 PM
Init,

I suspect every man on this board would rank loyalty first Nd as a woman looking for a relationship u should probably key on this as a red flag as a guy carrying to much baggage to be ready for a otters relationship.
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Re: Something for Men II
#8: October 13, 2013, 04:04:20 PM
I suspect every man on this board would rank loyalty first Nd as a woman looking for a relationship u should probably key on this as a red flag as a guy carrying to much baggage to be ready for a otters relationship.

I'm sorry elray..I'm not understanding this?

Are you saying if a man is looking for loyalty that he's not ready for another relationship?
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Something for Men II
#9: October 13, 2013, 05:21:36 PM
I'm saying if that's a number one with a bullet, then it would be a bad sign.
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