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MLC Monster MLC script V
OP: March 28, 2014, 07:38:59 PM
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Re: MLC script V
#1: March 29, 2014, 09:01:00 AM
My H is more than two years post BD. Its a shame he is hypersensitive and has no sense of humor, as I would love to send him MLC for dummies. What do you think? Is there ever a point we can send them MLC for dummies?
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Re: MLC script V
#2: March 30, 2014, 02:22:49 AM
I sent it mine and also showed his best friend who agreed with every point. I realised straight away it was the wrong thing to do so sent him a caring email after it saying that one was facetious but this one is real (a quote about depression and feeling lost etc) no reply from him to anything helpful or about medical stuff

It was a few months ago, before my 180 etc. I also let him know he is self medicating-he is now admitting to it. It may have helped him see what he is going through is common.

Things he said in the first three months

I'll always love you
We've lost our connection (he withdrew and wouldn't talk or even cuddle me over the summer)
You've robbed me of a normal sex life :(
There's nothing wrong with you, it's the relationship
You never listen to me
You never support me (I let him work abroad for eight years while I worked and did a masters)
I've been unhappy for 15 years ( kids are all under 14)
We should never have got married
I'm broken
I don't know who I am
I've never been without you
I've been trying for years
You didn't like the presents I got you :(
I've been ecstatically happy with you
I like your dress/haircut
I cried on our wedding night in the bathroom because I felt like I'd raped you :( :( :(
You said you didn't like a song I played on guitar (our fave band, I love the song)
You told me off for being late 11 years ago when I'd nearly crashed and was wet from the rain
You're controlling/manipulative/selfish
You always made me do DIY (he chose a wreck of a house to do up)

I could go on all day. Don't dwell on them. They are trying to justify their affair and have to rack their brains to pick out bad things about you
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Re: MLC script V
#3: March 30, 2014, 02:58:04 AM
OMG arggh, bar a few points, I heard the same...
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Re: MLC script V
#4: March 30, 2014, 03:04:32 AM
They are deeply sensitive souls who have been hiding in the body of men who have to be strong and only talk about football and barbecues
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Re: MLC script V
#5: March 30, 2014, 03:20:14 AM
Very sad!
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Re: MLC script V
#6: March 30, 2014, 06:37:45 AM
Here are a few of my personal favorites:

We should have broken up before the kids were born.

I want to out you in suspended animation in a bottle until I get through this.

I want to work on our marriage, but I still want her to be my friend.

I think you should sleep with other people, but they can't have a Pen!$ bigger than mine.

I think we should have an open marriage.

I ever enjoyed sex with you.

I find your orgasms a distraction.

I'm glad I'm not at the house to watch (in reference to our dog's hip dysplasia). I'm empathizing with you.

I'm just trying to be happy.

WTF is wrong with me (asking himself why he can't  work on our marriage).

And my absolutely, all time favorite when he was explaining why he refused to do anything with me: I don't want to feel like a two-timer.


If these gems aren't proof of a serious need for counseling, I don't know what is!

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That's was some f*cked up sh!t! I don't ever have to do that again!

Why are you holding on to that? How is it serving you?

One does not make the trip to he!! And back without acquiring transferable skills!
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Re: MLC script V
#7: March 30, 2014, 08:39:05 AM
You were a horrible wife.
I hope you find someone who deserves your love.  (these were a few days apart  :o )
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Re: MLC script V
#8: March 30, 2014, 09:23:24 AM
 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ohhh Doodlebug!! I'm so sorry!!

And Medusa.. :o :o :o :o WOW!!! SERIOUSLY F'ed up I hope you don't give him anymore chances to say $h!te like that!
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Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: MLC script V
#9: March 30, 2014, 10:41:00 AM
I love the Pen!$ one. How did you reply? 'Should they get it out first so I can measure it before wasting time dating them?!'

Seriously though, it's so hard not to take the sex ones personally
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