[patience.of.a.saint]

ShadesOfGrey...that's quite an email. Mine would never have thought all that up at all, much less typed it out and emailed it to me.

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I'm very curious how sex plays in all this. 

Sex is a big part of this at least in my situation. I think that my H was starting to 'slow' down sexually and he went looking for something to 'ramp' it up. He found OW that will do anything that he wants and this is how fixed this problem. It will stay fixed for so long then what?!

[patience.of.a.saint]

I'm very curious how sex plays in all this. 

Sex is a big part of this at least in my situation. I think that my H was starting to 'slow' down sexually and he went looking for something to 'ramp' it up. He found OW that will do anything that he wants and this is how fixed this problem. It will stay fixed for so long then what?!

I always had the impression that the OW was like the porn star he always wanted...at least judging by the requests he had for me back when he was cake eating every other weekend. That and I got the impression OW was all about her pleasure and not necessarily his. I would bet money that the thrill has worn off quite a bit since he now thinks it should be over so fast.

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I always had the impression that the OW was like the porn star he always wanted

Lol...............my H has called OW a 'human sex toy'

[nah]

I always had the impression that the OW was like the porn star he always wanted

Lol...............my H has called OW a 'human sex toy'

My husband would never even mention her name to me.  We don't discuss her.  Just guessing, but I think your husbands are just trying to seem "macho"

The "girl" is very plain, not sexy.  Again, I think she was just something different not necessarily better. 

[blackice]

mine said ow was just like a living blow up doll. no personality and just a breathing sex toy. he said he missed having it with me cause i do things she won't.

[bipolared]

My H said early on that he looked like Richie but wanted to be Fonzie, so I am assuming he would like to do a certain amount of womanizing before he dies or something.  But then he "falls in love" with these OWs and spends a lot of time with them although he is still fishing around.  I've never gotten the whole "the more people I sleep with, the more badass I am" thing;  I can see us doing it a bit to boost our self-esteem or stave off loneliness and hey, I like sex ALOT- but just randomly to validate yourself? 

[patience.of.a.saint]

mine said ow was just like a living blow up doll. no personality and just a breathing sex toy. he said he missed having it with me cause i do things she won't.

I've also heard that I do things that she won't or that I do certain things so much better. I actually believe him too, just from the other requests he made. I think OW is all about toys and making sure she gets what she wants. Not that that is bad, but I enjoyed making it good for him too.

I always had the impression that the OW was like the porn star he always wanted

Lol...............my H has called OW a 'human sex toy'

My husband would never even mention her name to me.  We don't discuss her.  Just guessing, but I think your husbands are just trying to seem "macho"

The "girl" is very plain, not sexy.  Again, I think she was just something different not necessarily better. 

Mine knows enough not to discuss her. You can get a lot of info from cake eating when there are all of a sudden new ideas of things to try. I will even go so far as to say that he used to text me about what he would like to do with me so I would naughty text back and get him in the mood. Let's just say, I cut that off at the pass now when he tries it. One of the times he asked I said it really was pointless to talk naughty with him if I wasn't going to be the one getting anything out of it. He still tries it every 4-5 weeks though. 

[Medusa]

I've also heard that I do things that she won't or that I do certain things so much better. I actually believe him too, just from the other requests he made. I think OW is all about toys and making sure she gets what she wants. Not that that is bad, but I enjoyed making it good for him too.

I also heard that I do things much better than her, and I I got the distance impression she will let him do whatever he wants as he fulfills his sexual fantasies. He forgot who he was with, once. Yeah...that was a fantastic experience.

Sexually, mine became just as selfish as he is in all other ways. Its all about him and his flaccid little Pen!$.

[patience.of.a.saint]

Sexually, mine became just as selfish as he is in all other ways. Its all about him and his flaccid little Pen!$.

Now there's an image. Lol I wouldn't say mine is all about him, although essentially that's exactly what it is in disguise. Last time he was here, he wanted us to go in the bedroom and he'd "take care of me" and he didn't need anything. I declined the offer, figuring if he didn't need anything, he was just getting his jollies off me & would go back to OW. Sorry...go watch a porno if you need help getting it going! And he accused ME of taking 20 min! At least I don't need to watch someone else to get excited enough to make the plumbing work with the current person.