[nah]

Sexually, mine became just as selfish as he is in all other ways. Its all about him and his flaccid little Pen!$.

HAHAHAHA....This is the first thing I read this morning.  Better than a cup of coffee. 

We had a great sex life, I was one of those crazy housewives that couldn't wait until he came home so I could jump him.  The last 5-6 years he started to be unable to "finish".  I don't mean me (b/c I can 'finish' while driving to the grocery store...lol) I mean him.  It got to the point where he only "finish" maybe 1 out of 10 times.  Did anyone else have this experience?  I thought it was just a normal reaction to loss of testosterone over the years.  He didn't have a flaccid problem until the very end, and I think that was probably just guilt.

I'm thinking he must be having the same problem again by now.  I doubt she is as eager as I was, maybe that's why I don't focus too much on her.  Why why why is he still with her though?  Hasn't even looked back like so many on here do.

[Medusa]

Patience, my has some sexual issues to work out. I have suspected for all apt as many years as we've been married that he may have been molested. If not that, he does have some bisexual tendencies, and those do mess him up. He mentioned once to me about experimentation when he was young. Anyway, that's why he is as selfish sexually as he is. I realized a long time ago that he had certain preferences for positions that are a display of power, not equality and love. Remember, too, I'm the lucky girl who has his permission to sleep with other men as long as the Pen!$ is smaller than his.  . Yeah, this man has some serious issues.

Sexually, mine became just as selfish as he is in all other ways. Its all about him and his flaccid little Pen!$.

HAHAHAHA....This is the first thing I read this morning.  Better than a cup of coffee. 

We had a great sex life, I was one of those crazy housewives that couldn't wait until he came home so I could jump him.  The last 5-6 years he started to be unable to "finish".  I don't mean me (b/c I can 'finish' while driving to the grocery store...lol) I mean him.  It got to the point where he only "finish" maybe 1 out of 10 times.  Did anyone else have this experience?  I thought it was just a normal reaction to loss of testosterone over the years.  He didn't have a flaccid problem until the very end, and I think that was probably just guilt.

I'm thinking he must be having the same problem again by now.  I doubt she is as eager as I was, maybe that's why I don't focus too much on her.  Why why why is he still with her though?  Hasn't even looked back like so many on here do.

Nah, mine was the same. It would just wither and die, and that was before OW. When we were in Jamaica celebrating our 25th, he got really drunk one might and was crying about his "broken Pen!$". He wouldn't go to the doctor even though I begged him (he did that for OW). He wouldn't listen when I patiently and gently told him that often ED is the result of emotional issues. Whatever it is that's causing his flaccidity is in his head and, thank God, no longer my problem, because while I can understand that sort of thing may happen on occasion, when it becomes a regular event, you start to take is personally. The knowledge that he needs the little pills for OW gives me great satisfaction. He used one for me, at my request, during the cake eating period. The rest of the times, that man could have cut diamonds.

[in it]

  You two are so funny!

The ex had diabetes on top of all the other issues and due to readjusting my sex drive I was willing to go without it as I felt 32 years was worth the "more mature love" aspect..didn't realize he had no respect for me.

Wrong.... .....

It would be great to have a man that could cut diamonds again!

[bipolared]

Nah, mine was the same. It would just wither and die, and that was before OW. When we were in Jamaica celebrating our 25th, he got really drunk one might and was crying about his "broken Pen!$". He wouldn't go to the doctor even though I begged him (he did that for OW). He wouldn't listen when I patiently and gently told him that often ED is the result of emotional issues. Whatever it is that's causing his flaccidity is in his head and, thank God, no longer my problem, because while I can understand that sort of thing may happen on occasion, when it becomes a regular event, you start to take is personally. The knowledge that he needs the little pills for OW gives me great satisfaction. He used one for me, at my request, during the cake eating period. The rest of the times, that man could have cut diamonds.

Do you think that he didn't want you to see and know that "weakness" in him but it is ok with OW b/c it plays into the whole "you poor baby" thing they have going on?  And another reason he can resent you for being such a strong person.

[Medusa]

Nah, mine was the same. It would just wither and die, and that was before OW. When we were in Jamaica celebrating our 25th, he got really drunk one might and was crying about his "broken Pen!$". He wouldn't go to the doctor even though I begged him (he did that for OW). He wouldn't listen when I patiently and gently told him that often ED is the result of emotional issues. Whatever it is that's causing his flaccidity is in his head and, thank God, no longer my problem, because while I can understand that sort of thing may happen on occasion, when it becomes a regular event, you start to take is personally. The knowledge that he needs the little pills for OW gives me great satisfaction. He used one for me, at my request, during the cake eating period. The rest of the times, that man could have cut diamonds.

Do you think that he didn't want you to see and know that "weakness" in him but it is ok with OW b/c it plays into the whole "you poor baby" thing they have going on?  And another reason he can resent you for being such a strong person.

Maybe. He was tentatively starting to go in some unusual places as far as his wants, and to be honest, they freaked me out. They just weren't the guy I loved, and I know I reacted badly. Nothing I can do about that now although I do wish I could have opened the conversation about it. I was just very freaked out.

[bipolared]

Same here, Medusa.  Probably a combination of their sexual bucket list and the hormone surge. And the possibility of childhood sexual issues.  This discussion is interesting, I have also suspected something of that and then the other day he did this past life meditation that yielded interesting results.

[in it]

Working that dark side out and we really ought to be happy they view us as someone they wouldn't want to do that with.

he told me she was into some pretty violent $h!te..that wasn't her it was him.

These ow lack for quite a bit...madonna /ow complex I guess.

[terrified_in_TN]

  at the direction this thread has taken!  You gals are funny.

-T

[in it]

Wondered when one of you guys would stop by!

[terrified_in_TN]

I've been lurking, but pretty speechless.  Seems to me most of you gals are as much closet freaks as us guys LOL.  j/k

While attempting to get back on subject, although my w isn't sexually experienced (neither am I-we could count the number of partners on one hand for our entire lives), one thing that I do know from a woman MLCer perspective-although I am sure the sex is exciting, what she enjoys the most is the emotional fulfilment that OM is providing.  SS25 had told me that is why w was so infatuated with him.  The small things-hugging, kissing, etc...The physical closeness without being sexual.  The problem is, once those hormones start flowing from the excitement of it, then all attempts at providing those things that have been missing by me don't work.  Its now all about how she *feels* with OM.

-T