[blackice]

he says she reminds him of the girls he would want to date when he was a teenager and she makes him remember that time and it disgusts him. at first it was a good thing and now it makes him sick.

[terrified_in_TN]

WoW, I am going to go out a limb here and say that my situation is completely different.

I honestly do think OM is VERY good looking.  Way "hotter" than me that is for sure.  W even told me at one time when we were slinging mud at each other "he is so much younger than you and f$%^s me really well."  He is tall, dark, handsome, young, flat stomach...All those things that most women really want.

HOWEVER, he is also tattooed up (not judging by the way, I have nothing against them personally).  But the BIG thing about him is he is the "bad boy", while I am the "nice guy".  You could not get any more opposite than us two.  I have actually PMed pics to a few LBSes and they are quite shocked at the difference between us.  Night and day.  He is an ex gang member, and likes to deal in the nose candy.

-T

[Medusa]

WoW, I am going to go out a limb here and say that my situation is completely different.

I honestly do think OM is VERY good looking.  Way "hotter" than me that is for sure.  W even told me at one time when we were slinging mud at each other "he is so much younger than you and f$%^s me really well."  He is tall, dark, handsome, young, flat stomach...All those things that most women really want.

HOWEVER, he is also tattooed up (not judging by the way, I have nothing against them personally).  But the BIG thing about him is he is the "bad boy", while I am the "nice guy".  You could not get any more opposite than us two.  I have actually PMed pics to a few LBSes and they are quite shocked at the difference between us.  Night and day.  He is an ex gang member, and likes to deal in the nose candy.

-T

For what its worth, TN, I will take a nice guy over a bad boy any day. I'm way too smart to want to deal with someone who deals nose candy.

BTW, you know a lot of the MLCerrs get involved with drugs, right?

Mine never said a lot about OW other than to tell me that he had concluded physical beauty (me) wasn't important anymore. I do have one picture of them together, and she appeared hefty, and she is very plain. Meanwhile, I'm a calendar model at the ripe old age of 49. That's something he can ruminate on!

[blackice]

oh don't get me wrong, ow is pretty, especially when she put her 10 pounds of make up on, however she thinks she is the most beautiful person on the planet when she isn't, i am actually prettier than her, h has even said it. the only thing is she is slimmer than me but she isn't thin herself and like i said she has a weird pyramid body. my d17 likes to call her an ice cream cone. her personality is abhorrent.

[terrified_in_TN]

.... Meanwhile, I'm a calendar model at the ripe old age of 49. That's something he can ruminate on!

  I will have to say, I completely agree!  You sure don't look 49.

I will say this, I have always had somewhat low self-esteem, BUT it has actually never been higher thanks to D16 "redoing" my wardrobe LOL.  However, I still do think OM is better looking than me.  I call a spade a spade.  I think my w is caught up in the "hot catch" that she is with now.  Too bad about his criminal past and no real future to look forward to.

-T

[terrified_in_TN]

... my d17 likes to call her an ice cream cone. her personality is abhorrent.

LMAO!!!!!!!!!

-T

[terrified_in_TN]

Oh Medusa,  Yes I do know that mlcers have a tendency to try drugs.  When we had our custody hearing, we were both drug tested.  She was "offended", and said she would NEVER try drugs EVER (I don't trust ANYTHING that comes out of her mouth however-afterall she KNOWS OM has a "past").

I think she is probably smart enough to not try them until after d is over.  I also know she is making sure OM doesn't do anything until this is all over.  Little does she know...hair folical test...you can't hide from that.  I will probably have OM supeanaed (sp?) because judge made it clear the kids are NOT to be around people who use.  And after the comment D5 made over the weekend, OM is MOST CERTAINLY around her.

-T

[patience.of.a.saint]

I had nice guy and went to bad boy...but my nice guy was only interested in music and movies and didn't care what I was interested in...and he always agreed with every. single. thing. I ever wanted to do, like around the house or trips,etc. In my case, nice was boring...no spark, no challenge, just nice...and boring.

Now, my bad boy was nice too, but he could add his own ideas & sometimes they were better than mine. He could tease & get teased and so there was always a spark. He was charming, could throw a wink at me the moment I looked at him. We had chemistry...we still do, but I think it scares him. He's big, shaves his head bald, has tattoos...the whole nine yards. He's a teddy bear if you're the right person....my D12 has him wrapped around her little pinky. lol

[terrified_in_TN]

I had nice guy and went to bad boy...but my nice guy was only interested in music and movies and didn't care what I was interested in...and he always agreed with every. single. thing. I ever wanted to do, like around the house or trips,etc. In my case, nice was boring...no spark, no challenge, just nice...and boring.

Ouch.  That was me.  Truth hurts, so I will take the truth dart.  I understand this is a process for us to change and grow as much as our MLCers.  At least I can recognize my faults and failures and strive to be better.  It does not make this process any less painful however.

-T

[Returned]

HOWEVER, he is also tattooed up (not judging by the way, I have nothing against them personally).    He is an ex gang member, and likes to deal in the nose candy.

OMG. ..holy cow...talk about affair down
Wow
And I thought my H's OW was bad
Beat me hands down