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#70: May 02, 2014, 06:47:57 PM
You know, I think in my case that ed was a contributing factor.  I think he blames me for it.  I actually think that's what he means by there is no spark.  He seemed to feel the spark a couple of weeks ago when he actually carried me to the bedroom for a romp and had no problems. 
Last weekend we went down that road again.  He had no problems.  So being a smart ass, after I let him rest a bit and have a cold one I asked him if he was ready for round 2.  He said no he was tired and I told him I was sorry he couldn't keep up with me.  I know, that's mean, but hey, it's true.  And I needed to get in as much as possible in the limited time I had available. 
He said to me once, I hope you don't think I'm using you.  No buddy, but I hope you know I'm using you. 
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#71: May 02, 2014, 06:53:25 PM
You know..I think us LBS's should partake in buying in the battery industry. We could make a killing lmao.  ;)  ;D. Haha. Ok. TMT, I know..it is gonna be hard to sleep from laughing and just thinking..lol
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#72: May 02, 2014, 06:55:36 PM
TMT...I do think they blame us for the ED, and why they don't feel a spark.  They don't want to admit that they are getting older and/or having health issues...so it just HAS to be the woman who has been with them for so long...she doesn't know how to turn them on anymore.

Denial at it's finest...or most pathetic in this case.
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Re: Guilty Pleasures
#73: May 02, 2014, 07:07:28 PM
Quote from: toomanytearss on May 02, 2014, 06:47:57 PM
You know, I think in my case that ed was a contributing factor.  I think he blames me for it.  I actually think that's what he means by there is no spark.  He seemed to feel the spark a couple of weeks ago when he actually carried me to the bedroom for a romp and had no problems. 
Last weekend we went down that road again.  He had no problems.  So being a smart ass, after I let him rest a bit and have a cold one I asked him if he was ready for round 2.  He said no he was tired and I told him I was sorry he couldn't keep up with me.  I know, that's mean, but hey, it's true.  And I needed to get in as much as possible in the limited time I had available. 
He said to me once, I hope you don't think I'm using you.  No buddy, but I hope you know I'm using you.

I get something similar to the using you thing......mine use to say she didnt want to give mixed signals or blur the lines. Said she wanted me sexually but things arent fixed yet....doesnt want me to feel resentful or used. Yea right....like its oh so tortuous for me and I get nothing out of it!

Quote from: holdinon2hope on May 02, 2014, 06:53:25 PM
You know..I think us LBS's should partake in buying in the battery industry. We could make a killing lmao.  ;)  ;D. Haha. Ok. TMT, I know..it is gonna be hard to sleep from laughing and just thinking..lol

OMG...Wow! Well my toy just uses the  lil' batteries is all I can say!  ;)  :P


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Re: Guilty Pleasures
#74: May 02, 2014, 07:38:17 PM
Quote from: bookwrmmom on May 02, 2014, 06:11:16 PM
Yep this is definitely the "guilty pleasure" thread! Let's face it most of us are not getting our "needs" met right now. Whoever we end up spending our future with better be ready when the time comes  ;D  :-*
I went 5 YEARS without...that first time after that long...can't be repeated.  ;D :o 8) We still reminisce about it.

I think I need some cake soon...I may have to break one of my own rules when he visits on Sunday. Maybe I should just unsubscribe from this thread instead...but I can't look away.  ;) ;D
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#75: May 02, 2014, 07:44:56 PM
I just keep telling myself that the make up sex will be MINDBLOWING!!!

It's been over 8 months and I'm dying!!!  WHY did he have to leave at my peak?!?!?!?  :o :o :o :o
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#76: May 02, 2014, 07:45:50 PM
5 YEARS??  I don't think I have the strength for that.  OMG I can't talk about this anymore.  I have to get some sleep.  I have to be up in a few hours.  I'm too distracted.  Crap.
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#77: May 02, 2014, 08:10:35 PM
I'm not sure how I did it...and it was probably more like 6 years because we barely did it at all the last 6-8 mo before exH left. My D11 was only 2 and never slept through the night so I was exhausted and just didn't think about it. And it wasn't that good so I never really thought I was missing much. Little did I know...

Anyways...it CAN be done.
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#78: May 03, 2014, 04:38:35 AM
You don't need to invest in batteries....you can get things that recharge from Amazon. I know: I received one for Christmas year before last. ;)
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Re: Guilty Pleasures
#79: May 03, 2014, 06:47:08 AM
Amazon 1 click ordering has never been so dangerous.
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