[Medusa]

OBO, you gave me the first real smile of my day. Thank you.

As for returning the favor, since I made that comment, let me just say that mine has strong feelings of entitlement regarding BJs. Never said he actually received them. After the night his Monster insisted he hadn't received one for 3 years, I snapped that it was the same for me and then made a rotten comment that this was all about his Pen!$. Even though I know its not all about that, for mine, a great portion of it seems to be.

All this conversation is making me contemplate when he told me he didn't like feeling like a "stud service" to me when I allowed cake eating. I never felt that way. Kind of makes me wonder why he said that, what was really going on in his brain, and if OW somehow gave him that feeling. Intellectual curoiusity. Anyone else have something similar?

[bipolared]

OBO, good for you to chime in.  It is interesting to hear the guy perspective.  I think this is a good discussion, as so much of MLC seems to revolve around money and sex!
Medusa, i have not gotten the stud service thing but we definitely had the BJ discussions.  H was always happy to reciprocate but our problem, I think, was that I could be more giving in the bedroom if he could have been more giving out of the bedroom.  I tried to explain this to him but as you know, it is all about him.  Or her, depending on who you are.  But sexual history was rewritten for his sense of entitlement for sure.

[patience.of.a.saint]

LOL OBO...thanks for the man's perspective. Sorry if we made you blush! 

I do have to say I would only give a BJ if *I* wanted to...and they would stop if I didn't get something out of it in return. He hasn't had one for a while, but he mentions it every single time he is here.  I just smile...can't give in every time, just often enough make him want more.


Medusa...haven't had that particular phrase with mine as he knows if he complained, the cake eating would end. In his eyes, we are "friends with benefits" so he hasn't seen it as doing me any favors. But, I'd bet with yours, he was trying to feel less guilty about the cake so the "stud service" comment was like blaming you...easier to blame someone else if what you're doing makes you feel guilty. Just a thought...

Bipolared...I get the impression from my guy that give & take in the bedroom is only in the bedroom...like it doesn't apply elsewhere because there is a different give & take for that. I get what you're saying, but I know with mine that he wouldn't see helping with the dishes as a way to more BJ's. He would just see helping with the dishes as something we do to get the job done faster, which he likes things done fast so he helps. Then again, he's one who would think I should give him a BJ in the kitchen while he did the dishes so maybe I've interpreted him entirely wrong.

[holdinon2hope]

Lmao..a BJ while doing dishes, needless to day the dishes may not get done or clean  . My H wouldn't "expect or ask" for a Bj even when we was married  maybe mine weren't the best..lol  . Oh well always room for improvement at some point lol.

[superdog]

Obo, obo, obo under no circumstances is a man in his 20,s at his performance peak. This i believe only refers to the testosterone.

Honey, us women know all about will versus way ;-) hence my suggestion we may need Two to make up for it.

Sd
Xx

[Darth Obo]

I guess I am an anomaly; it's reversed in our sitch!

I never got anything out of receiving oral/BJ and never actually asked for or desired them that much! It was never one of those things she gave that much but would on occasion, but I never pestered. She doesn't ever ask or feel entitled, however, she never has to ask me for that type of service though. It's just one of those top list items I do for her!. Any day of the week and twice on Sunday 

I didn't get my tongue pierced and a vibrating tongue ring because it looks good! 

This thread reminds me of a joke I heard from a comedian named Bob Shimmell. Bob said...."when it comes to my wife & BJ's, my d*ck is in the witness protection program!' 

Honey, us women know all about will versus way ;-) hence my suggestion we may need Two to make up for it.

Wow!!! 


OBO

[holdinon2hope]

I think we definitely stole a thread here..maybe we need to start one for just this kinda talk..lol. sorry for the Hijack!!  Geez, we are all over the place lmao. Keeps us smiling though

[bookwrmmom]

OBO I read that about the tongue piercing and vibrating tongue ring  and said "holy $hit" 
I agree that a man should not expect "favors" if he has a problem returning said favor. A friend of mine once said her husband didn't like to give her that gift....I promptly told her that he shouldn't be getting it either.

[Serendipity]

Ok.  I have to chime in here.

Tongue piercing??  DAMN!  What a lucky girl!

We seriously need to change the subject here.  This is really frustrating to read. 

[bookwrmmom]

Amen Serendipity