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Discussion Re: Useful Insights or Tips Gained in Therapy (IC or Couples)
#60: April 11, 2016, 08:21:09 PM
Thanks for posting this 1T. The things you're therapist has told you are very interesting, especially the part about treating him with compassion because he's in a crisis and the part about the two types of MLCers. I know my wife is the first type with the low self esteem.

Has your therapist said anything about the relationship with the OW?
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Re: Useful Insights or Tips Gained in Therapy (IC or Couples)
#61: June 07, 2016, 07:40:58 PM
Perspectives on going dark from two therapists:
  • If your conversations were helping to improve things, then it would be one thing, but if they aren't going anywhere and are just hurting you, there is no point.
  • He is using his anger at you to avoid dealing with his own internal pain and sadness. Once you remove yourself from his projection, he will need to deal with this pain and sadness.
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