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#70: January 17, 2015, 04:48:51 AM
Help, I am seeing my H for the first tiime in weeks to split up the storage unit. I could use some quick advice for today.

Thank you so much!
 
Here is my thread

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=5944.0;all
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#71: January 27, 2015, 08:58:31 AM
Good evening.I just want to ask something.One year after bomb drop my H become worst of his mlc.Now he wants to go to the OW.He tried to stay with us coz according to him he dont want to leave us but the urge to follow the OW to another place is so strong and its making him crazy.So finally I was the one who told him to go to the OW coz its so painful seeing him more depressed that before.Then after our last conversation I didnt contact him anymore.No call and text.I talked to my SIL and she told me that she ask my H about my decision to let him go to the OW.H told her he cannot decide if he will leave us.His guilt is killing him and he's afraid that we will not accept him if he comes back to us..Is it wrong that I was the one who told H to go to the OW?Why can't decide to leave when he told me that he really wants to be with the OW?kindly enlighten me please??

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=5802.0

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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#72: February 04, 2015, 05:45:02 PM
Not sure if this is the right place for this, but when reading threads, is there an icon that takes you to your last read post on that thread? Some of these threads I follow move way faster than I have time for & it's tough to find where I left off. Thanks a bunch!
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#73: February 04, 2015, 05:51:45 PM
When you log in, right by the side of your Avatar there is a Hello patience.of.a.saint then there is:

Show unread posts since last visit. and Show new replies to your posts.

The first will allow you to see all the threads that have new posts, the second the threads you have post to and now have new posts.

There is also a notify bottom inside each individual thread that you can click. You will receive email notifications from the threads you have on notify.

Hope this helps you.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#74: February 04, 2015, 06:15:47 PM
Not sure if this is the right place for this, but when reading threads, is there an icon that takes you to your last read post on that thread? Some of these threads I follow move way faster than I have time for & it's tough to find where I left off. Thanks a bunch!
hit the new button it takes you to the post that you have not read yet
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#75: February 04, 2015, 07:02:31 PM
Thanks Old Pilot, that's exactly what I was looking for.

Anjae, thanks for your help as well.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#76: February 09, 2015, 04:13:45 AM
No one reads my thread anymore so posting quick question here?

Why do they ask you questions about themselves now, when they never thought you knew what you were talking about before?  Do they just want to confirm we haven't changed


An answer on your thread ;)

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http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4702.50
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#77: February 11, 2015, 12:28:59 PM
hi I haven't posted since july/august 2014. How can I reactivate my thread.

Its called 'where do we go from here'

Thanks  Glimmer X

Good to see you! ;) Is this your thread? http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=5245.0
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#78: February 13, 2015, 09:13:31 AM
I could use help trying to figure out how to save texts for court.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 8
#79: February 13, 2015, 10:51:07 AM
Hi RB, I've saved saved lots of text conversations in case my solicitor needs them. I did screenshots on my phone, if yours supports those. I had to Google how to do it on mine! I then sent the screenshots to a family member as well in case anything went wrong with my phone.
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