[Has your MLC'er filed for divorce?]

Has your MLC'er filed for divorce?

No, still living at home.

3 (7.5%)

No, but has threatened (living at home).

4 (10%)

No, but we are separated.

14 (35%)

Yes, paperwork is in process.

11 (27.5%)

We are divorced.

8 (20%)

Total Members Voted: 40

[Love being on higher grounds]

RTFMF...


NC still has the Alienation of affection law...closest to a dultry ive found... 

[OldPilot]

Some states say marital relations, however they also say marital relations can be cooking dinner for the other spouse!

[Love being on higher grounds]

bumping this up, hoping for some more opinions...



thanks and hugs!
L

[Baxter]

Hi Still , as you know(I think) my H filed for divorce over the summer and now we are working our way back to reconciliation.  I have to say though, I did not feel it was just a piece of paper at all...it was far more personal than that to me. 

IMO, it goes far deeper than just paper..especially if there are children involved and other assets, etc.   For me, my H was/is the bread winner, so I was going to have to move out of a house I could not afford and start anew.  I was going to have to change jobs,  basically  change my entire way of living..so far more than a piece of paper to me.   Again, that is just my opinion. 

Things can and do change, I guess how and when , is the question we all have.   

Hang in there...you are in my thoughts....Baxter

[Writingmom]

Still,

So, so, sorry to hear this latest development.  My D is almost final and it was emotionally taxing.  During mediation I broke down many times.  I think it is difficult to view it as just a piece of paper.  I am bracing for it now, but have had several major break downs in between.  What God has joined together...it is not NATURAL for it to be broken or separated in this way.  It truly is a break; like the severance of a limb. 

I see the perspective that you can still stand, that there is hope after it is final and I don't mean to minimize that.  But the emotional toll that it takes on some is, in my mind, normal and maybe even a necessary part of the grieving process.  In short, just feel what you feel.  There is no right or wrong.  Divorce is just an added layer of stress in this already crazed season in our lives.  You would not be normal to be facing this without batting an eye. 

Again, I am so sorry to see that yet another D is in the works.  It's ridiculous and crazy and just wrong.    Hang in there.  Feel free to PM me any time.  Life has majorly interrupted my checking the board these days.  If I can help, I will. 

[xyzcf]

I am so sorry to see that yet another D is in the works.  It's ridiculous and crazy and just wrong

I feel this way to but unfortunately sometimes it just has to happen.

I wait and look forward to a new marriage someday because as I gaze back now, that old marriage died the moment he broke his vows to remain faithful to me. He destroyed it, I forgive him and it will be up to God to change him and I to someday be together again. And if not, I'm almost to the point of believing that I'll be ok anyway because this person my Beloved has become cannot give me anything right now anyway.

Love to all of us going through this nasty process..it makes me sick everytime I hear from my attorney.

[NinjaGirl]

it makes me sick everytime I hear from my attorney

xycf...  need some of my xanax?  lol.

[Still]

Things can and do change, I guess how and when , is the question we all have.   

Hang in there...you are in my thoughts....Baxter

Thank you, Baxter. Your story has given us all much hope.

My D is almost final and it was emotionally taxing.  During mediation I broke down many times.

WM,

Your story has always been so painful for me to read. You have been through so much. It is so hard to understand why situations have to be so devastating.

You know I wish you nothing, but the best. I pray for you all the time.
****

Thanks for your kind words, xyz. They mean a lot to me.

[xyzcf]

Thanks NG..Clonezapam has been my drug of choice recently but I'm starting to think I may not need it any more...but that's today which has been a good day not like yesterday which was rough. And so it goes!

Always nice to "lighten" up things a bit!

[niff naff]

Hi Ladies and Gentlemen,

My Husband decided to file for divorce about 8/9 months after leaving, he kept saying I need to give you an answer, I think now looking back he would say things to me, so I would instigate the divorce, things to wind me up, I never did, it is his divorce and always will be, I have days when I truly cannot believe this is happening, my H was the type of man that would have hated more than anything to have to call himself a divorcee, and bring his child up in a broken home.  The change is 180 completely, he phones angry, blaming me, I can hear when he is fed up with his choice, because he tries to start the aggravated conversations.blaming me for everything crap in his life.

Love to all