[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Hope for Zen]

I keep my ring on.  I tried taking it off a while back, but it felt weird.  Also, whenever someone asks me out despite the ring I know they are a jack-hole looser and that I should stay away from them.  I have a long way to go before I am healed, so the folks I attract are pretty broken. 

I also keep it on because I refuse to play along with my H's lie that we are already divorced.  I like to think it holds up a mirror to H & OW too, but that is probably just wishfull thinking.  More likely they see it as evidence that I am persuing. 

Eh.  I think if I were still strategizing on getting him to come back I would take it off.  It seems to bother him.  I do want him to come back, but only if he is able to face the reality of what has happened and deal with everything honestly. 

[Stander1964]

My H gave me his ring, I now wear it along with mine.  I have tried not wearing them, but I eventually put them back on.  I too have wondered if wearing them put more pressure on him, but since I  rarely see him, I doubt it.

[Tiffany Dee]

For our 13th anniversary we had matching rings tattoo'd onto our fingers.  Before the divorce he told me he had always hated his and that it looked funny and he wanted to remove it - at the time I told him I would be deeply hurt if he did, but I now think the ring, like the marriage certificate and divorce decree are all just symbols - what is in your heart is what really counts.  If I ever reach a place when I believe in my heart that the marriage is over, I will have the tattoo removed, if does it sooner, that is his choice to make.  I know I will be hurt, but that's life.

Hugs
Tiff

[Still]

Wearing my wedding ring clearly irritated my H. I stopped wearing them about a year ago. I have them in a safe place and every once in a while, I slip my band on.

Oddly, even after a year, the imprint is still on my finger.....not just a tan-line, but a clear impression.

[summer progress]

Marked for life? 

[In this for ME]

I'm new to the ring thing..he just put his back on last week..trouble is I have no idea why 
I know it means something to him or he now knows it means something to me as when he asked to do it I told him it would make me very happy if he did. So I'm going to assume if he takes it back off again
 that he will have given up on our relationship  but I have no idea what any of it means in regards to him.
Apparently it does mean something to him- he has worn his ever since we got married even while working construction and other jobs where it may prove to be a saftey risk.

I took mine off a few years ago as I was too fat to get it on my finger. It's a very wide band and I didn't want to pay to have it made bigger ( and of course I thought I would drop the weight) BUT I always wore my diamond.

Well with the LBS diet I can get mine on now so I put mine back on too.

[TrustingMyHP]

I'm fairly new to the MLC world (BD was just 7 months ago) but I wear my rings because they encourage me and they remind me that I am married even though H and I live apart, he with OW.

My H never wore a ring, we didn't even have one for him at our wedding ceremony.  He had seen first-hand a bad accident with his BIL involving his BIL's ring getting stuck on a boat cleat.  This was before were ever met. 

H swore he'd never wear a ring and it was no big deal to me.  I've since thought, however, maybe it would have been a good thing if he'd worn one.  Maybe the OW would have not been so friendly when she first met him. . .that's silly, I suppose.  H wearing a ring or not would have made no diff in his MLC and his decision to have an A, I'm sure.

I'll wear mine, maybe forever.  When people who know my sitch (only a few so far) have questioned me as to why I'm wearing them I simply say, "I'm married."

TMHP

M  58
H  60
D  22
M  38 yrs.
BD  Jan. '11
H living with OW

[MsZing]

I was just wondering what people do when they are legally separated but not D and H is not living at home anymore. Or any other combinations of living arrangements.

My H is wearing his wedding ring on his right hand now instead of the left and I have followed suit. I know he is adamant at the moment that he can't be my husband . Does seeing us wear our wedding rings annoy them and scare them? or does it give them peace?

[Mermaid]

I'm not legally separated, and H is at home (in his own room), but is also adamant that he can't be married. He took his wedding ring off about two years ago, and says he's lost it.

I've kept mine on, and it doesn't seem to make any difference to him.

[LearningIamOk]

I took mine off. We aren't legally separated, but he's been out 8mos. It was just a painful reminder to me of things gone bad. There was  no more we, just me.