[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Ibelieve]

Great topic Glimmer,

I feel the exact same way you do. I have been taking mine off and on.  The first time I took it off was when he was coming by to do some stuff. He did not say anything.  And I am wondering the same thing in regards to what they think. I have had it off for a few weeks now, the longest I have had it off. And I hate not wearing it. On the other hand I use to look at it and think how wonderful our love was.. Now I look at it and I get mad thinking it was all a lie.

[Thundarr]

I can sense DGU headed here with an article reference or quote in 10.....9....8...7...

[kikki]

Hi all
I wonder the same thing.  I took my ring off at BD but H made such a fuss about me not wearing it, that I put it back on.

I did take it off again about five months ago and H looked and looked for ages at my hand without my ring.  He didn't comment though.

I thought it might relieve the pressure??  It felt so weird for a long time, but I'm getting used to it now.
I do still put it back on at times, but not when H is around.

[Foxberry]

I wore my ring until May this year...when I met my H again at the end of April I commented that he was wearing his ring..he said I don't wear it all the time and then proceeded to show me a small pocket in his wallet where he kept it.  Don't know what that meant anyway      ...but after we parted again in May, and H told me he'd ended our marriage    - I decided that I wouldn't and couldn't wear my ring any more as it is too painful to look at it basically.... especially with him living with another woman as though they are married..... so until his ring I put on his finger in church means something again... mine is in cold storage...

Foxy xx

[wondering]

I wear my ring, my H does not. I took it off a couple of times a few months ago but was not comfortable without it. I decided I'm wearing for me, because I believe in my marriage and I choose not to send any signal to any man out there that I'm available. I wear it for me, I don't care whether it effects him or not. He hasn't said anything and at this point I don't think he cares. I may choose in the future to take it off but for now it is staying put. You have to do what feels right for each one of us. There is no right or wrong. But you should do it for you not to effect your MLCer.

[Covenant for Life]

I'm with Wondering.  I wear my wedding ring, engagement ring, and anniversary ring all on the same finger.  Wearing my rings   signifies to others that I am married and honors the covenant vow that I made before God.  Regardless of what my H does, in God's eyes and my eyes, I am married.

H took off his ring the day he told me he wanted a D, which was a few months after moving out.  I have his ring sitting in my Bible.

H certainly sees that I still wear my rings, but he has never commented about it.  He does know that I am standing.

[Little Chief]

I wear my wedding ring to show I am still married.  Not that I'm getting any offers, but if I were in a situation where I could I don't want any offers.  I put my engagement ring in the safe deposit box at the bank.  That one is unnecessary now.  I still wear my claddaugh ring on my right hand, but alternate if it is turned in or out based on my mood.

[StandandDeliver]

Hmmm, I don't wear mine at all. I took it off a month after BD when H left and have not worn it since. It is a symbol of his commitment to me and if he ever decides to renew that commitment then I will wear it again, but not until what I believe it symbolises is truly there. As for H, I honestly believe that if I was still wearing it he would tell me to take it off because as far as he is concerned I am in denial. I think it is important that he and OW believe that I have accepted that it is over (which to a large degree I have: if we were to get back together it would be a new relationship, not the continuation of the old one). That will enable her to let her guard down and him to move forward thinking that he has got "what he wanted" which was "out".

Just my perspective on my own sitch, nothing wrong if yours plays out differently...

[Stillpraying]

I took my engagement ring off when I got the speeches.  I put it on again when I thought we were both working at our marriage.  Had no idea about MLC then.  When H left in April I was going to keep my wedding ring on until I wasn't married any more.  But once I found out about OW I cut it off a few days later (too tight to slip off) and replaced it with a pearl ring I bought many years ago.  I still wear it on that finger.

My H said nothing.  He gave me back his ring but I said I didin't want it back.  To me I still meant what that ring signified.  He may have sold it by now.  I don't know.  I did return the engagement ring to him.  it's in one of the boxes of all his stuff.

H never said anything about my rings but he was SO UPSET that I stopped using the handbag (purse for those of you in USA and Canada) he bought me on our weekend away and gave me for my birthday which was a week before he told me he was leaving.  I just couldn't use it as he knew darn well he was going to leave me when he bought it and gave it too me.  He sent me a long text about how hurt he was and how he would always treasure that weekend away  ???I have since bought myself a new one and I think H has noticed.  I still don't know why he was so hurt I didn;t use the bag when he had already made his mind up and had OW.

[Thundarr]

I still wear mine because I feel I am still married regardless of what my W is doing.  I considered replacing it with a tiger's eye ring she bought me several years ago if the D ends up going through but I haven't decided.

 And if I do decide to no longer stand I may still wear it anyway.  Ironically, men can pick up more women with a ring on than without one (don't hate!!).