[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[Foxberry]

S&D, you have perfectly summaried what I was trying to say     My wedding ring is too important to me, to continue wearing it (if that makes sense) until I have a marriage to celebrate back again.  The vows that went along with that ring have been  well and truly broken, so maybe a new ring in the future for a new relationship.  Who knows...I wear my Mother's eternity ring on my wedding finger now, felt funny with nothing on that finger.. Considering that both OW and my H were wearing their wedding rings when they got together - it didn't stop them from commiting adultery...for me it's not what you wear on your finger that matters, it is the honesty, love and trust that it symbolises.  For now all that has gone.

Just my opinion and I respect all other points of view expressed... 

Foxy xxx

[StandandDeliver]

Thundarr

Ironically, men can pick up more women with a ring on than without one (don't hate!!).

Sadly, that I believe. Don't know what it says about either gender really except that we seem to be a f****d up lot, us human beings. I think it is because they seem to be people who would honour a commitment. Except that by picking up other women they aren't. 

I wouldn't advise using your ring as a pick up tool though Thundarr (if it comes to that, which I hope for you it does not!) - you know what kind of woman a ring attracts? An affair down woman. If you take it off, you might have a chance with a quality woman like myself  . I am very modest too.

MLC. Sigh...

[What Next]

I hadn't even considered taking my rings off (engagement, wedding, eternity) and now this discussion thread has me wondering!!!

When H came back in May I noticed he had his ring on but when I commented on that he admitted he had worn it on his other hand while away.  I have no doubt it got switched back before he got off the plane and met OW in June and since.

Will be twirling these rings around my finger for the afternoon now!

Good topic, interesting comments.

[Foxberry]

Funny isn't it....a man with a ring on always was and always will be a complete "no go" area for me.... any woman who believes the "my wife doesn't understand me" or any ludicrous statement, deserves everything she gets.... in my case a man in MLC and they are both on a path to misery and destruction..... 

Foxy xxx

[Dontgiveup]

Thundarr

"I can sense DGU headed here with an article reference or quote in 10.....9....8...7..."

Sorry to disappoint.....no article reference or quote here.  I think there is another thread about this topic, though.  Maybe Old Pilot will find it and merge them.

I will share a ring story.  My friend's ex-wife, who married and then divorced the other man, and has been in MLC about three years, told my friend a couple of months ago that she still has her ring from when they were married.....and that it is one of her most important possessions.

[OldPilot]

  I think there is another thread about this topic, though.  Maybe Old Pilot will find it and merge them.

Funny I thought the same thing, I have been looking this morning but so far I have not found it.

I will keep looking.

FTR I wear my rings cause I am married and the judge will need to tell me to remove it.
I think my wife wears hers too, although I haven't really looked in  a while.

I do not think it makes one bit of difference other than what YOU think.

[stayed]

Great discussion!  I kept on my rings until my mother passed away and was buried.  I removed them when I returned to arrange the packing and shipping.  Husband noticed immediately, told me he thought I would NEVER take off OUR rings (as he called them).  He wore his most of the time he said... sometimes, when OW said something he took it off, but pretty much wore them 

Certainly, never felt it was advertising availability.  Like S&D, I felt they represented something wonderful, commitment for life.  When I finally accepted that this was indeed happening to US... I took them off, as they seemed like a farce.  They had been on for so long and NEVER, I repeat NEVER been taken off, it was pretty obvious they had been there, as the lines were embedded into my finger.  I wore my family ring that the children had given me a few years before which helped.

I never got used to it.  I always kept my fingers covered with my other hand, as I felt naked. You know, I don't think those lines faked one bit the whole 5 or 6 mos. that I didn't wear them... hehehe

hugs Stayed...

[OldPilot]

  I think there is another thread about this topic, though.  Maybe Old Pilot will find it and merge them.

Funny I thought the same thing, I have been looking this morning but so far I have not found it.

I will keep looking.

Found it, threads merged together

[Ibelieve]

Oh yeah, I forgot to add that...

Just about a year and half before BD, Our 20th Anniversary we got my Wedding Diamonds set into a new setting. Um...He claims he has not been happy for the past couple of years. Why on earth would he do that for me??? So it makes it even harder to look at knowing that we got it when he was not happy.

modified to add:
I wear my Anniversary ring on my right hand because it is a symbol of when times were great. I got the ring for our 10 year Anniversary. So it reminds me of how wonderful our marriage was at that time.

Oh my gosh... Our song just came on the radio, as I am writing this. That's just crazy! 

[StillStanding]

Just about a year and half before BD, Our 20th Anniversary we got my Wedding Diamonds set into a new setting. Um...He claims he has not been happy for the past couple of years. Why on earth would he do that for me??? So it makes it even harder to look at knowing that we got it when he was not happy.

Another way to look at it is, he wasn't telling the truth when he said he's been unhappy for years.

Gee whiz, why do people take anything MLCers say at face value?