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What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring
42 (35.3%)
If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something
6 (5%)
Have it safely tucked away
60 (50.4%)
Gave it back
7 (5.9%)
Never had one never needed one
4 (3.4%)

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Author Topic: Discussion Wedding Rings - - Ring or no Ring

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Discussion Re: Wedding Rings
#90: October 15, 2011, 04:42:27 AM
  Mine's on. Keeps him confused and proud of me. :)  Knows I have a lot of patience and forgiveness. He did construction for a while stopped wearing his years ago. Didn't phase me. Still doesn't.   I just don't want him wearing Bowser. >:(
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Re: Wedding Rings
#91: October 15, 2011, 04:51:31 AM
Merged this thread in with a previous discussion of this topic.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#92: October 15, 2011, 04:54:58 AM
Not wearing my old wedding band as that marriage is over.  I now wear my clauddaugh, the Irish wedding band.  It represents love, loyalty and friendship, which I think is a more appropriate band to wear during this time, and strangely enough, H gave it to me out of the blue a few years back.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#93: October 15, 2011, 05:40:28 AM
When we got married my H took his ring off after 2 years of marriage because it got in the way of his work and it has been kept safe in our jewelery box.  After BD I took mine off too, mostly out of anger and placed it where he could see it.  He mentioned to his sister that I took it off and he was shocked about it.  I have left it where I took it off and it is there gathering dust as we speak, I will leave it there on the shelf just how he has left our marriage.......on the shelf.  Who knows how long it will be there!
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Re: Wedding Rings
#94: October 15, 2011, 06:14:39 AM
I took mine off when I realised he was living with OW, such disrespect didn't deserve me wearing a ring which literally symbolised nothing any more.... When he had his "return" at Easter I did put my ring back on to meet him as I was every hopeful that he was back to stay and for the right reasons...

When we met up I saw he had his ring on too, when I said to him "I see you are wearing your wedding ring" his reply was "Yes, but I don't wear it all the time".... he showed me where he carried it...in his wallet.....  :-\    but that was one of many comments I chose to ignore !!!! stupid really as if he'd wanted me back the comment would have been very different... I have no idea what he is doing or where his ring is now....mine is in a drawer in London.....far away from me.....

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Re: Wedding Rings
#95: October 15, 2011, 08:36:18 AM
My h never really wore a wedding ring because it was a hazard where he worked. On our 25th anniversary, he went with me to get a white and yellow gold band with a tiny diamond chip. I still wear it, it has our names engraved with our wedding day and year with 2009, which was the date of our Silver Wedding.
IDK if he cares if I wear it or not, he never asked me to take it off. I also wear another ring that he gave me about 16 years ago and it means a lot to me.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#96: October 16, 2011, 08:05:55 AM
My H took his off in late 2009 ... he was having PA but I didn't know at the time. Then when I found out in Jan 2010 and he said he'd stop the affair, he put the ring back on. In Nov 2010 he took it off again, said he didn't want to wear jewellery, he put it on his key ring!. Then when I found out the PA had continued and told him to leave in February 2011, I put my ring with his on the key ring and took his house key off. I don't know where the rings are now, I presume he has them both somewhere, and if we ever get back together, I would prefer to wear a different one, the old one belonged to his Grandmother, I'll suggest he gives it to one of our daughters.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#97: November 17, 2011, 12:44:47 PM
For the record,

Mine is still on... thought it would be rather melodramatic to give it back.  W was taking hers on and off Post BD now she has not had it on for months.  Mostly just a curiosity...

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Re: Wedding Rings
#98: November 17, 2011, 12:58:04 PM
After losing 65 lbs on the LBS diet, mine slipped off my finger and went to a watery grave in the swimming pond at our favorite campground - cest la vie.
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Re: Wedding Rings
#99: November 17, 2011, 01:00:56 PM
There was another wedding ring poll in an older thread. If it got closed, maybe we can link that thread to this one?
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