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#40: August 25, 2015, 08:03:04 AM
Quote from: Thunder on August 25, 2015, 06:35:58 AM
Why would anyone want a younger man? They don't have staying power, they don't have "experience" and they tend to be selfish.

They don't have staying power???  I beg to differ with you on this one Medusa.   ;D

This thread has gone to a WHOLE other place!  But remember, old men have pills now that can give them up to four hours before you have to worry...
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#41: August 25, 2015, 08:51:59 AM
We can blame it on MyBrain.   ;D
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#42: August 25, 2015, 08:59:09 AM
Well personally I haven't ever been with a much younger man.
 I think what's being said is true about them more than likely being selfish..staying power???..well..depends on what kind of control they have over themselves and not respond "prematurely"I suppose.

I agree. Let's blame it on MyBrain.
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#43: August 25, 2015, 09:10:13 AM
In It,

It's funny, the only man I was with who was my age was my 1st H.
I dated and married men younger then me since then.

I don't think it's has anything to do with looks or their youth it's more what we had in common.  I just relate to younger guys better.  I have more in common with them.  Taste in music, things I like to do (camping, hiking, biking, etc.).  Most men my age would never consider sleeping on the ground in a tent.   ???
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#44: August 25, 2015, 11:28:53 AM
Quote from: Thunder on August 25, 2015, 06:35:58 AM
Why would anyone want a younger man? They don't have staying power, they don't have "experience" and they tend to be selfish.

They don't have staying power???  I beg to differ with you on this one Medusa.   ;D

Hey, I'm going from memory, and that was a long, long time ago.

My more recent memories tell me that an older gentleman who is notdrugged has significant control. For him it was not about the end result but everything leading up to that result.

Oh, and he cared about me and what I got out of it. Time after time after time after time...  :P
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#45: August 25, 2015, 12:53:59 PM
Quote from: in it on August 25, 2015, 08:59:09 AM
I agree. Let's blame it on MyBrain.
I readily accept the blame since this has been a very interesting conversation.

Quote from: Medusa on August 25, 2015, 06:06:57 AM
Why would anyone want a younger man? They don't have staying power, they don't have "experience" and they tend to be selfish.
Thanks for several more reasons why the younger women should prefer an older man. :D

My wife's mother was married to a man who was more than 20 years older than her. It wasn't an MLC situation. She was divorced from her abusive husband (w's father) and he was a widower. They were very happy together, he remained very active until shortly before he died in his late 70s, and it was the best relationship she ever had. A few years later she had her final relationship with a man who was closer to her own age and he was a selfish, arrogant jerk.

Quote from: Thunder on August 25, 2015, 09:10:13 AM
I don't think it's has anything to do with looks or their youth it's more what we had in common.  I just relate to younger guys better.  I have more in common with them.  Taste in music, things I like to do (camping, hiking, biking, etc.).  Most men my age would never consider sleeping on the ground in a tent.   ???

I think this pretty much sums it up. Thunder and i seem to have a lot in common.  ;D

Some of the music I like is even a little too progressive for GD14. And I'm 56yo and have been camping in a tent 3 times so far this year. I prefer our 30 foot camper but my wife has the truck and I refuse to ask to borrow it so the tent is fine. I didn't sleep on the ground, though, I used an air mattress.
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#46: August 25, 2015, 01:02:38 PM
An air mattress is ok too.  I use a foam mat.
It's just when I was on that dating site eons ago men my age would say..oh heavens no, I packed my camping gear away years ago.  I prefer motels now.

 :-\  Idios

MB, I actually do see a lot of older women who stay very active and look great.
I know this will not sit well with some guys but I do think men age faster than women.  Not always but that's just been my observation.
BUT men look better than women do when they age.  I think older men are pretty handsome most of the time.  Gray hair and all.
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#47: August 25, 2015, 01:12:03 PM
I'm reminded of my neighbor across the street that I've visited with a lot over the last 4 years. I knew her H wasn't her first husband, but I didn't realize the details of how they met until after he passed away in 2012.

She is 82 now, so around 79 back then. He died at 97. They had been together 10 years! - met when she was visiting her late mother in the old folks' home and he was also a resident. They were married within just a few months. He'd been married 60 years to his first wife, and she hadn't been gone that long. The kids were almost her age and VERY skeptical of her motives - he had a good chunk of change from all that work he'd done in the 1920's in the oil fields of Texas! She'd been widowed in the 1970s but the neighbors say she had a long term boyfriend for a few decades, but she attested that this guy was really the love of her life. She cared for him in-home when he was completely riddled with Alzheimer's for as long as she could, so I can only use that as a gauge that yes, her devotion was very real.

But the reason I bring it up is that while she and I would talk after Hoss left, there was an MLC guy (father of one of my junior high friends! ICK) who would ride over on his motorcycle with his ear ring and creepiness and want to "talk" to me about how his divorce was almost through! I was NOT interested, but of course the neighbors noticed and this woman said to me once, "You ought to keep him in mind! Just because he's older doesn't matter - look at me and John!". I guess I learned then that "old" isn't an age group - that a 79 year old and 97 year old can still be considered a May/December romance.  ;D ;D ;D  And she assured me, "They said he was imPOtent, but let me tell you, he was NOT imPOtent!" (emphasis hers).
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#48: August 25, 2015, 03:02:52 PM
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May-December relationships have at least an 11-year age span between the parties. The vast majority of May-December marriages take place between older men and younger women. According to the most recent U.S. census, 7.4 percent of husbands are 10 or more years older than their wives.

But that trend is starting to change. A 2003 AARP report, “Lifestyles, Dating and Romance,” found that 8 percent of women older than 39 were dating men at least 10 years younger.

Read more here: http://www.sanluisobispo.com/2014/07/29/3172036_may-december-romance-rules.html?rh=1
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Re: poll - divorcing other woman
#49: August 25, 2015, 03:11:54 PM
Quote from: Thunder on August 25, 2015, 09:10:13 AM
It's funny, the only man I was with who was my age was my 1st H.
I dated and married men younger then me since then.

I don't think it's has anything to do with looks or their youth it's more what we had in common.  I just relate to younger guys better.  I have more in common with them.  Taste in music, things I like to do (camping, hiking, biking, etc.).  Most men my age would never consider sleeping on the ground in a tent.   ???
Ding, ding, ding. We have a winner here. I'm not "fit" in the visual sense, but I can still hike a mean Grand Canyon, do 50 situps each day and swim the rough water. I have a heard time finding friends to keep up, especially in my age group. (It's really tough because they look at me and don't think I'm as able as I am)
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