Some of the things my H has said over the past 2.5 years..
I love OW and I want to be with her ( ok, then file for divorce )
I still love you and I think I always will ( really? you lay down next to me after being with her and im suppose to think you love me..)
I am conflicted and confused ( if that's true then you dont move in with OW. you live on your own and figure things out)
I feel justified in my behaviour, you pushed me away ( I was busy taking care of everything and being the adult)
You kept me from my family ( not true, no one held a gun to your head and forced you to not see them)
you have to fight and have drama all the time ( I do not go around people that do not like me)
I want a long term seperation ( ok, then live on your own)
I dont want a divorce ( you left me for her, why not divorce me)
for now i am gone, you just need to deal with it ( you arent truly gone, you are playing both sides)
There will be no "working on things" if i want to come back I will simply come back ( you wont jump from her bed back into mine)
There is no reconcilliation ( really? then get the F out of my life)
I am just a pay check to you ( I have worked like a field hand for 36 years taking care of what we built together)
you had everything you wanted but nothing made you happy ( I was happy)
you treat me like a child ( act like a child get treated like a child)
why cant you just calm down and see where all this goes ( i did when all this came out and you have taken advantage of me)
If i had it my way i would have both of you ( it doesnt work like that when you are married.. unless you live in Utah)
I felt alone for years ( apparently you were never alone, you always had another woman on speed dial)
i know you are hurt, but things happen and i never ment for this to happen ( yea, your Pen!$ just accidently fell into her)
I am happy with her sometimes ( wow !! sounds like life, and we arent all always happy but we dont blow up our families..)
What i do is none of your business ( we are married and you went to a fertility clinic with a 35 yr old..I am 55 and menopausal.. i think thats my business )
I work, i dont have time to sit and text with you. ( really..thats all you did was sit around at work and text other women and meet them at hotels near your office)
I just want peace and i want to be happy ( you arent going to get that by having a wife and a girlfriend at the same time . who is really the drama queen in all this ?? )
This is not about the head, its about the heart and how i feel.. you keep trying to convince me to do things based on logic and that will never work..( so, if i am feeling hungry and have no money, if i see someone on the street with food i can just take it.. Im glad you cleared that up for me..because that logic thing keeps messing with what i want to do.)