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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Valentines Day
#100: February 14, 2011, 04:53:25 AM
Well I just told D14

"HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!"  :D :D

Her reply:
"Oh fu*k it"

TOOOOOO FUNNY!!!
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Re: Valentines Day
#101: February 14, 2011, 06:41:56 AM
WOW, Bewildered!  I just read your post and I'm just floored..........if we didn't step back when our H's started all of this we would truly be crazy by now.  If I ever doubted my xH going through MLC I don't any more.  Just reading everything you said about your conversation with you H really sheds light on this for me.  These spouses are NOT the ones we married. Listening to them and being around them is so stressful and so hard to grasp anything they say.  There's no other explanation for their actions and their words other than MLC.  I'm so convinced about my xH now.  The LBS's would literally go crazy if we let them pull us into their drama.  It took me several months of research and reading to come to the conclusion that it is MLC.  If I hadn't done that I would have lost my mind.  I blamed myself for so much in the beginning.  I realized it wasn't me........it was all him.  My xH said weird things to me and just reading what you posted hits so close to home.  Thanks for sharing your story.  Sometimes I just want to scream!  I don't understand it, but I accept it.  This site has truly been a blessing but it's still so sad and discouraging to read about so many others in this situation.  God truly needs to help us and our spouses.  Thank you again.

I will say, "HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY"...........but it doesn't hold much meaning to me. 
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Re: Valentines Day
#102: February 14, 2011, 07:19:58 AM


 HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYONE!! :) :) :)

So My H sent me a text this morning, " Happy Valentines Day! :) "
I relied, Aww Thanks, Happy Valentines day to you too"
H replied, " I truly hope you have a wonderful day, Sorry I cannot be there, and thank you again for the card"
My relpy, " I hope you have a wonderful day as well, Do not worry H, Just knowing
your thinking of me, helps"
H Reply, " More then you know, MORE then you know.
My reply, For me as well, again..I truly hope you have a day filled with peace and joy"
H reply, " I need that soooooo much, You have no idea"
My reply, " actually, I do know...More then You know"
H reply, " :)
My reply, " big warm hugs"
H reply, " awww thank you, I sooooo needed that today"
My reply, " :)"


So anywho...Just wanted to share with you, my convo. It does bother me that in his mind, he thinks he can't be with me, But because I do know where his head is, I can let it go. ( besides, he is at work for the better part of today)  hehe

I think I'll treat myself and My d to something nice today...Bless us all! :o)
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Re: Valentines Day
#103: February 14, 2011, 07:56:33 AM
Here's my Valentine's day advice.... DO NOT GET THEM A CARD! Don't text, call, email or otherwise acknowledge the day.... there is NO part of this day that holds ANY romance or feelings ABOUT US, all it would do is reassure them that they are fabulous and spectacular and can get away with murder and STILL get your positive attention. Send them to the Valentine's Day Corner and go do something nice for yourself. :)
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Re: Valentines Day
#104: February 14, 2011, 08:03:57 AM
Happy Valentines Day RY and All!!
Enjoy YOUR day!

Just letting you know, I was Just Kidding in my previous post!  I wouldn't waste my time or money on OW. H can spend the day with " Ol' Nebbie." (The OW).

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Re: Valentines Day
#105: February 14, 2011, 08:11:31 AM
To everyone on this forum.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!!

((((((((HUGS))))))))

Be good to yourself because that is what is important on Valentines Day.

YOU!!!!
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Re: Valentines Day
#106: February 14, 2011, 08:12:26 AM
I think this Valentine's Day is a perfect day for some self-love, or spending it with your kids or other loved ones.

Go and see a movie, or grab some lunch with a friend you haven't talked to in a while. If you have kids, go do something fun with them; depending on their ages that could be the playground, the movies, the mall...
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Re: Valentines Day
#107: February 14, 2011, 09:08:57 AM
Well, I took W out yesterday shopping and to dinner. I did everything a person can do to push and it looks like we both survived.
I started out with asking her if we could both wear our wedding rings! They are back off this morning though, mine broke as I took it off, reckon that's a sign? :-\ I poked and prodded all day long, tears here and there. Funny, we were holding hands and she said our hands didn't fit together, never did. I laughed and said are you serious? She gets most of what's going on
but the wall around her heart is so high that nothing gets in except bad emotions. I asked her if me kissing her scared her and she said yes.
At the end of the "date" she said she had a really good time. I said, "you did"?
Go figure, I was pretty tough on her with the truth but she seemed to survive.
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Re: Valentines Day
#108: February 14, 2011, 09:28:34 AM
just got a Happy Vday text. How do I respond to that????
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Re: Valentines Day
#109: February 14, 2011, 09:34:37 AM
If you feel like it just wait a couple hours and text back, "you too" or "U2"?
I'm not a texter, or much of a typer for that matter!
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