Hi All
Found this article very interesting as i still ponder why i need my ex to be unhappy with OW and how he could move on without any real empathy or sorrow for what we had.
After reading this article i guess you could say i found another piece to this infinite jigsaw puzzle called life and how we as LBs's can move on from our need to find those evasive answers.
I hope this helps you too.
take care
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Why Good Things Happen To Bad People
Posted: 11/11/2011 7:08 pm EST Updated: 01/21/2012 5:12 am EST
"To he who is right in mind, he can do all the wrong things and it will still turn out right. To she who is wrong in mind, she can do all the right things and it will still turn out wrong."
As we watch the Wall Street rich get richer (many of whom created our economic crisis) while honest, hard-working people get poorer, a question naturally arises:
"Why do good things happen to bad people -- and so many bad things happen to good people?"
It sometimes feels like we're living in a perpetual opposite day, where "Love yourself not your neighbor" seems to be the golden rule and "Take and you shall receive" appears to be the principle of abundance. In the self-help/spiritual arena, the pain is felt even more acutely; where's karma, the law of cause and effect, the law of attraction? if you're a good human being, good stuff is supposed to happen to you, right?
Wrong.
It's a common misunderstanding to believe that "human goodness" leads to the experience of human good. In fact, that's not always -- or even often -- the case.
Here is the real principle of life: Consciousness is cause.
It's not so much the actions we take, but the consciousness behind them, that determines our experience. If a greedy person believes they're worthy or capable of creating wealth, they'll create it. If a generous and kind person doesn't feel worthy or abundant, they'll end up a broke do-gooder.
It's not personal, it's principle.
For every area of our life, we have certain set-points. For example, we might feel capable and confident with our work -- and hold a strong self-image about it -- but simultaneously harbor a limited identity and belief system around wealth. This can create an experience where we do great work, receive abundant kudos and are still underpaid. Or if we manage to increase our paycheck, our expenses increase with it -- making us broke at a higher income bracket!
This can also show up in the area of health. A person can do all the right things, eat all the right foods and still end up getting sick -- while another person eats whatever they want and hardly has a down day in their life. Don't you just hate those people?!
Some would argue that this is about genetics. But the latest discoveries in epigenetics reveal that genes don't control our body, the environment of the cell does. And what controls the environment of our cells?
Our consciousness.
This has been further shown in the science of psychoneuroimmunology, which explains how our thoughts become chemical and electrical impulses in our body, forming a biological alphabet that sends commands to our cells. Thoughts become things. Our biography becomes our biology.
Our consciousness is the cause of our reality.
If we take a deeper look at the do-gooder, striving to change the world for the better -- but getting short-changed themselves -- we'll find a belief system of limitation and fear. The inner talk might sound something like "life is hard, people are unfairly treated, things are unjust... " And that is the kind of life they experience, regardless of how much they "fight the good fight."
We don't get what we want -- or even what we pray for -- we get what we are in consciousness. Life is not fair, it's lawful. When a person eats a healthy meal, but underneath it is motivated by fear or self-loathing, the law of consciousness sees a fearful, self-loathing person and magnifies that, drawing more of that to them.
The universe is blind to your actions but acutely aware of the thoughts behind them.
This isn't to say that actions aren't important. Action is crucial to creation. As the saying goes, "Faith without works is dead." But the reverse is also true: "Works without faith are dead." By all means, act from your highest standard of good. But be sure to align yourself with an equally high state of consciousness.
If you find yourself saving money out of fear of loss, shift that perspective so you're saving from a state of inspiration and abundance -- you're saving "for" something, like financial freedom or a new house, rather than saving "from" something, like the fear of financial ruin or losing your house.
This week, pay closer attention to the consciousness behind your actions. Notice when what you say matches what you're thinking and feeling and when it doesn't. Become aware of when your actions are in alignment with your deeper beliefs and when they contradict them.
Take some time to journal about the beliefs, self-talk and emotions behind the key areas of your life -- particularly the ones where you're experiencing challenges. At the end of the week, review this. You'll discover that the picture you're seeing outside is a reflection -- if only faintly -- of the mental/emotional picture you're living inside. You'll also start to see the gap between what you're trying to create -- the actions you're taking -- and what you're really creating with your thoughts, feelings and mental images.
The awareness of this gap is the beginning of real change. Set the intention to close that gap. Work with this material daily. And as your thoughts, feelings, words and actions become in integrity with your highest vision, you'll become one of the "good people" who has good things happening... and you'll be unstoppable.
Until next time, Stay Inspired!
Derek Rydall
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