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#40: January 15, 2016, 02:57:38 AM
W's l think began around 37ish but then ,so did her health problems, all our other problems and big stresses so to this day, l'm still not sure.
l think we could say l was also in the middle of my very own through that time too but at 48ish , it got pretty bad and l believe a yr or so later, mine actually brought on her bd at 39 for her.

Does any of that make sense ha , probably not but thems the numbers.

We'd lost both my parents over the 4yrs prior to bd but although of cause upsetting , l don't think it had anything to do with my mini mlc.
That was about my marriage and life.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#41: January 15, 2016, 02:59:57 AM


Mine was 40 , his Grandmother passed away in the August and he was 40 the following April , he started with all the what is life all about , what I have I achieved and the he purchases a sports car. We all joked and called it his MLC !!

How right we were !!
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#42: January 15, 2016, 04:15:43 AM
My H was 41 at BD.

It was 9 months after his father's death.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#43: January 15, 2016, 04:31:31 AM
Male - BD at 50 ( days before turning 51)
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#44: January 15, 2016, 06:49:56 AM
Male - 45 at BD. Moved our family halfway around the world to pursue his dreams of being the next Lawrence of Arabia or James Bond one month before his 42nd birthday. He turns 49 soon and is still wandering in the desert ...

So far (discounting a couple outliers at either end of the age spectrum):
Males:
36
37
38
39 - 4
40
41 - 2
42 - 3
43
44 - 4
45 - 4
46 - 2
47
49 - 3
50
51 - 3


Females:
36
37
38 - 2
39
43
45
51
54
55
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#45: January 15, 2016, 07:08:07 AM
Wife was 42 at BD
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#46: January 15, 2016, 07:38:57 AM
Husband was 54 at BD
He was 48 when we were married and all was well.
Was I just a part of an ongoing MLC he's been having?   Bleckkkkk!!!
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#47: January 20, 2016, 09:26:56 AM
Very interesting.
I know this is just coming from our group but it seems the women tend to go into their crisis at an earlier age.
If there is no number next to it, only one was reported

Women
29
36
37
38-2
39
42
43
45
54
55

Men
34
36
38
39
40-3
41-2
42-3
43
44-6
45-5
46-2
47
48
49
50-4
51-2
54-2
55
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#48: January 20, 2016, 10:29:00 AM
Hope I'm not too late to add to your stats!

H was 46 at BD.

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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#49: January 20, 2016, 11:04:04 AM
He was an oldie.....56
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