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Discussion Age crisis hit your spouse
OP: January 14, 2016, 08:07:27 AM
I'm just taking a survey here.

What age was your MLCer when BD happened?

Mine was:

Male - 46
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#1: January 14, 2016, 08:20:24 AM

Male - 44 (a month before his 45th birthday)
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#2: January 14, 2016, 08:20:43 AM
Wife was 38
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Me 45, W38
Married: almost 16 yrs.
BD: March 2015 "I need to find myself and my way"
S7, S12, S14
Divorced 2016

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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#3: January 14, 2016, 08:23:07 AM
Mine is Male 44 (acts 17)
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Me - 43
H - 46
M 16 yrs at separation
S - 15
S13
S8
BD April 2015
OW 20 - Now 22

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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#4: January 14, 2016, 08:29:37 AM
Male 45
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#5: January 14, 2016, 08:31:08 AM
44-gotta love those mid forties.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#6: January 14, 2016, 08:35:10 AM
I'll skew the results - W was 29.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#7: January 14, 2016, 08:37:57 AM
Male - BD just before his 41st bday, but anger started about a year earlier, just before his 40th bday.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#8: January 14, 2016, 08:39:29 AM
Mine was Male 49.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#9: January 14, 2016, 08:47:33 AM
50- he's always been in crisis.
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At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
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