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OP: January 26, 2016, 09:00:19 AM
I know there are various reasons for MCL, but I have been reading about male testosterone and found it very interesting. 

According to Jed Diamond in The Irritable Male Syndrome,  testosterone levels cycle throughout the year: “Studies conducted in the US, France, Australia found that men secrete their highest levels of sex hormones in October and their lowest levels in April.”

The irritable male syndrome is characterized by a “state of hypersensitivity, anxiety, frustration, and anger that occurs in males and is associated with biochemical changes, hormonal fluctuations, stress, and a loss of male identity.” 

Diamond claims that there is a seasonal aspect to the irritable male syndrome that makes men “more irritable when days shorten and there is less light. The decline in testosterone between October and April may contribute to this irritability.”

I realizing my BD occurred in January but every bad depression he has gone through was always around November.

Sorry this is for the ladies but if any male MCers have gone through this I'd like to hear from them.
What month did your H DB?

My BD was January
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Re: What month was your BD?
#1: January 26, 2016, 09:08:27 AM
My BD was in December but it is summertime here and a time of year that my h. is usually quite irritable because of the heat. He left home at the end of April, which is fall here. We also don't have large variations of length of daylight, our shortest period of daylight is probably 11 to 12 hours and the longest is about 13 to 14 hours.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#2: January 26, 2016, 09:18:49 AM
1st BD - October
2nd BD - February
3rd BD (and the one he moved out on) - May
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Re: What month was your BD?
#3: January 26, 2016, 09:20:48 AM
Quite interesting.

BD Beginning of April.

Told me the last time he felt happy was August.  We were in DC.  It was hot and sunny lane beautiful
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Re: What month was your BD?
#4: January 26, 2016, 09:24:41 AM
I had wondered this too! Mid August in my case.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#5: January 26, 2016, 09:28:30 AM
Diamond wasn't the only article I read on testosterone.  Others just gave certain months that were the worse.  Usually they gave October to April and didn't indicate light or shorter days.  His was more in depth.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#6: January 26, 2016, 09:45:53 AM
1st bd end of June
2nd bd mid April
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Re: What month was your BD?
#7: January 26, 2016, 10:53:13 AM
Very interesting. My first bomb drop was the end of June. He started acting weird in April. Second BD the end of October.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#8: January 26, 2016, 11:11:42 AM
The end of October.  2nd bd was middle of November although he started acting weird a week or so before.  Happy Bday to me!
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Re: What month was your BD?
#9: January 26, 2016, 11:34:06 AM
The affair started in January. BD was March. Both 2013.
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