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#130: April 24, 2016, 09:54:19 PM
Congratulations!!!!! Top 10 in your age group is fantastic!!!!!! 

I like that she wished you good luck. Subtle shifts towards more connection are positive and she's actually displayed quite a few shifts recently. I so wish there was a way to stop this divorce that I know you don't want.

Glad the massage helped. Sleep well.
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#131: April 24, 2016, 09:57:21 PM
Oh my BIG CONGRATULATIONS !!!

That time was spectacular !

It really is something to be proud of certainly. 

For my own reference as to running, what will you do tomorrow as to recovery ?  A day off exercise totally ?  Lift weights ?  Light jog ?  When will you resume a normal running schedule ?  I've read different recommendations and am unsure as to what the best protocol is afterwards. 

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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#132: April 25, 2016, 02:42:28 AM
Congratulations MB! I'm glad the massage helped.  :)
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#133: April 25, 2016, 05:55:21 AM
HUGE well done MB,

You should be feeling very proud of yourself. You must be SUPER fit!!!

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#134: April 25, 2016, 10:26:46 AM
Wow, awesome time!!!  My X has never done 7 minute miles.  Just awesome.

Congratulations MB!   :)
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#135: April 25, 2016, 10:57:45 AM
Thank you everyone. It's been fun exploring this unexpected talent for running that I found. God has blessed me in many ways. I'm not sure why. I sometimes wonder why God's given me so much. I keep thinking of Luke 12:48.

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I know I've been blessed but I'm not clear about what's expected.
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#136: April 25, 2016, 01:22:28 PM
or as Stan Lee likes to say:
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With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility.

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I know I've been blessed but I'm not clear about what's expected.
A life of fighting crime and web slinging, you crazy mutant superhero.
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#137: April 25, 2016, 02:02:34 PM
Weird you should be thinking like that B bc l've wondered similar for the last few yrs now too.
Yet lately it's like it's all just amounted to this and to where l am at now , like nothing , nowhere , all wasted , not even happy.
And now that l've depressed your thread , l'll be off.   8)
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#138: April 25, 2016, 02:14:56 PM
I told my brother later today that I need to start looking at things differently. I look at those numbers and I see the 7 in my age group and the 188 overall who finished ahead of me without paying much attention to the 70 in my age group and over 1900 overall who finished behind me.

Yup, that's true, the looking differently. It's classic, isn't it, to look at the negs and not the positives. Even after I've read half a dozen books that tell me to remember the good stuff, I forget to do it. Some of us are ingrained with this stuff. We have to keeping fighting to build the mental muscle to go with the physical. Physically, you're great, MBIB. Now you can do similar with your once-broken (see what I did there?) brain.... 

Your pretty girl radar seems well and truly functioning. I would take that as a good sign.  ;)

Isn't it weird the massage helped the jaw? Didn't I tell you so?  You're tense. That starts with the mental thing, too, of course.

I don't get how friendly your W is being given the D. Doesn't make sense. Anyone about to inflict a D on someone would not normally be normal.  Just not possible. Guilt and human kindness sort of prevent it. Could you do it? I couldn't... So what is she up to?  Compartmentalising like crazy, maybe. 

Yet lately it's like it's all just amounted to this and to where l am at now , like nothing , nowhere , all wasted , not even happy.

This does resonate with me, sadly.  And yet.... still we have to keep walking onwards. Running, in your case, Brain. Because tomorrow is always different. And new people come along, and new records get broken and the past does grow dimmer in the rearview mirror. Eventually it does. It just does. Never thought I'd say that.
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#139: April 25, 2016, 03:33:51 PM
Elray.
 ;D ;D ;D ;D  ;D ;D you are tooo funny!

CONGRATS MB.
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