[How long have you and your spouse been together/married]

How long have you and your spouse been together/married

5-10 years

8 (7.2%)

10-15 years

11 (9.9%)

15-20 years

35 (31.5%)

20-25 years

24 (21.6%)

25-30 years

19 (17.1%)

Over 30 years

14 (12.6%)

Total Members Voted: 111

[in it]

Lived together for 7 years the first year was great..should have left after he lost his job because he was stealing things from work..silly me thought he would grow out of that.

 Left him a couple of times. Ended up going back.

Then stupid enough to marry and have kids with him. Lasted 20 years. Utter hell. Abusive toxic relationship. He divorced me for exow and money.

Went back post divorce for another year and eight months thinking it was an MLC on his part. Nope silly me- wrong again.

2013 Got myself a trip to the hospital for ex-rays as I was trying to leave him- thought that would make him happy-silly me wrong again!

Total years I was with him? TOO MANY!

I'm DONE.

[Thunder]

Jah63,

I think in their messed up, confused mind they really think that we have nothing in common...and we probably don't when their in this state of mind.  The commonalities were with our spouses, not these aliens.

Living in La La Land is only for a chosen few.   

[Jah63]

Thunder, I'm so glad I'm not one of the chosen few

[ember]

My exH and I were together for 20 years, married for 17 but I noticed a change around year 16. Typical MLC symptoms.

[Whyus]

We were married 19.5 years and together for 21.
Our 20th anniversary is in June and I was planning a weekend in Rome. Had nothing booked but knew all realistic flight times, hotels, costs etc. ;-(
Im thinking if nothing changes until then I may fly alone and celebrate in myown style (probably crying all weekend ;.)  )

[TopsyTurvy]

Together 16.5 at BD
Married 12 at BD

[UnbrokenLioness]

Together 7 1/2 years at BD
Married 4 1/2 years at BD

Friend who introduced us said it sounds like the 7 year itch got him   

[spock]

Together 6 1/2 years at BD, tried to repair our R but he living as if he was a teenager, out all night and we don't even spend time anymore - if we do, he's always grumpy
I moved out a year later when I found out about EA2

H sort of dropped a semi-BD at 4 1/2 years, thought it was depression but he got out of it (and we got stronger), we went for holidays, he found a part time job, all was good then.

[Kintsugi]

My BD was just shy of our 18th wedding anniversary and was also in our anniversary month!  We will be 19 years next week.  In retrospect, I see where there were signs that I overlooked.  I was also trying so hard to better myself for better career opportunities that I thought would benefit US.  According to him. this was the time he felt we grew apart, which was a total shock to me. 

[osb]

Together since university days, so 31 years now. BD was just before 18th wedding anniversary (is that a thing, BelleElle?? shouldn't 18 have some nicer traditional anniv gift, like paper or clocks?). This year will be our 23rd anniv.