Hey, I am new to this information and I am finding it fascinating. I have a couple of questions that some of you can probably answer:
1) My H has always had the inappropriate social behavior that is described in FTD. But since he's always had it, that's probably not any type of FTD? Or is there something like that that can be life long? Could he just have had that one symptom and now full on FTD is kicking in? I notice when he comes to my house he eats all the sweets. He didn't do that before.
2) Does there face change? Does there bone structure change? MY H's eyes have really sunken in in the past six months. And the proportion of his forehead to face looks different.
Thanks for any information.
FiMG, very interesting!
1. Inappropriate Social BehaviorOne of my theories early on was that one lobe had become dominant over another. Studies have shown that we have more than one "brain" — our right and left hemispheres will show disagreement when there is an injury, damage, or in instance of lobotomy. For example, the right and left hand may not agree on what to wear. There is a theory that everyone's brain is like this, but has managed to co-exist.
I wondered, if our spouse or former spouse brain has this illness, perhaps one side has hijacked the other — which is why people will report an expression of their spouse at times where they look like they are watching in horror at what they themselves are doing, like a frightened child.
However, I also feel that many of those afflicted prior to MLC had a not fully developed sense of self and also a "shadow self." I think this is why RCR's articles are an important component of understanding MLC even if it also has neurological/medical component. In other words, your H behavior contains some authentic aspects of his personality.
My former SIL also had a MLC. Prior to this she was grateful for her husband and their lives. She often expressed that she wanted to be a different mom than her mom. When MLC hit she had affairs, slept all day, drank heavily, abused prescription meds. Her now ex husband told me he felt on some level she was now being her true, uninhibited self, a feeling I have at times with my own ex. It is like his executive function is not working so he is acting like a disinhibited 15-year-old.
2. Face ChangeYes. I noticed early on my ex's eyes appeared strange, not aligning, and eventually sinking. Often they will have a "startled" look, watery, or robotic, empty and cold ("reptilian"), but other times cold, dark, angry. My former BIL also told me that he could tell how his ex wife was going to act given her eyes.
Then his head shape changed. My son, age nine, told me earlier this year that this was a change his dad noticed as well. He actually asked our son if his head was changing shape! I agree it is almost like the forehead ratio changes. I don't know if some of this is due to fat distribution.
One of my more radical and out-there theories is inspired by apes. You know how a Gorilla becomes a silverback when there is a change to status, including significant growth to sagittal crest? This is a physical change believed to be connected to sex selection. They morph into another creature. Sometimes I think MLC is like this.
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bvFTD, yes, I agree with you, there is no reason not to explore other "out there" theories — particularly because some of these theories are perfectly accepted when it comes to other species! It is well documented that parasites can affect the behavior and minds of all other types of animals, driving them to do crazy and self destructive things. Why would we think that we as humans are the exception to this?