[Thundarr]

Hey Anj,

It's great that he at least understands how hurtful the lack of a father is to kids.  What's not great is that he doesn't look in the freaking mirror!!

And I wonder too why anyone would think something he is doing was so wrong when it feels so right to him.  I'll bet murder FEELS right to serial killers, don't you?

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

My H, a few months after inexplicably leaving our room to sleep on the couch every night:

"All we are now is roommates and I'm sick of it!  I'm sick of you being a roommate to me!"

 

[kikki]

Thought we might all have a few more by now ........ 

[Finding Hope]

This is way too funny. Before BD husband never said my name. Then after BD would begin sentence with my name and end sentence with my name. I finally had to tell him stop saying my name. In 25 years you haven't said my name as much as you have in the last 10 min.

Then there's this, after BD.

Me: what's going to happen to the girls, do you ever worry about that?
H: They'll be OK, I came from divorced parents and I turned out OK.   
All I could do was shake me head and think, oh really your just fine. 

C

[kikki]

The script is classic isn't it! 

My H too used my name frequently after bombdrop and in the first few months after he left home.

as in 'Kikki, we're separated Kikki - people do it all the time ........

Me - really?  People usually have a discussion about it first ..........  usually .......

[Mamma Bear]

  How about I saw him 4 times this weekend in the house and driveway..talking..laughing...cordial.  He gets the Ds to his apt 2 miles away and sits them down and says "So How's Mommy?"

[NoRegrets]

Me: You better not have given me a STD.
H: That's impossible. OW hasn't had sex in 10 years. I'm her first.
Me: How is that possible?
H: Well, OW is so beautiful, that she's gotten really good at fending off the attention of other men.

[Faith]

So glad to see this thread back!   

Two months ago my H was seen by a friend of mine with his most recent OW.  I sat on this info. for a while but later texted H that I thought it was time he tell our teenage D's about his girlfriend.  He keeps telling all of us he's a great dad and doing nothing wrong, so I told him it's time to give up the double life and tell them about her.  Now that he has been seen with OW, better they hear it from him than someone else.  His response:

Too bad you never loved me, you never wanted me....(on & on).  "Now you try to keep me with guilt tactics and hatred.  Who wants to stay for that?"

  Huh?  Who said anything about trying to keep you?  I'm just saying you need to come clean about your girlfriend.   

[With Hope]

Yeah, I got the first name constantly repeated too right after BD. Even his mom noticed it and commented about it after they found out he was moving out. He never called me by name before.

Now he doesn't even acknowledge my existence even during baby drop off...that may actually be better though than hearing "WH....blah...blah...WH"!

He's said most of the classics too...only I've gotten to hear the Spanish versions of many of those beloved MLCer lines. They don't sound any better in Spanish by the way!! 

[StandandDeliver]

oh I had the opposite of that - my H didn't use my name AT ALL for about 10 months - not in person, not in correspondance. Once he called me by a nickname accidentally, but other than that NOTHING! I finally told him I found it disrespectful and I would appreciate it if he used my name. Crazy...