[Foxberry]

They are all so self-absorbed - I don't think they think about anyone elses feeling at all...

My H hasn't spoken to his S since 5 September 2011 and didn't send S a text or anything at Christmas or New Year...so when S sent his Father an email on another matter he asked if he'd had a good Christmas...H's response??? Not yes and I hope you did too...etc...but H replied and said:   "Yes I managed to take 3 days off from my frenetic work schedule"

What? what kind of a selfish, self-absorbed, ludicrous response is that?? to a S he's never even bothered to speak to for 5 months....

Foxy xxx

[In this for ME]

There are some days I am just overcome with guilt for the father I chose for my kids.

I used to actually apologize during the height of the choas last year for this. I would tell the girls I'm so sorry I married a man that would do this to the family.

*W said that OM wants to watch me and W having sex.  Hmm, let me see...no, derranged!*

These fantasies must get pretty whacked.

 I found an email in which ExOW said she would NEVER forget what ExH had asked her to do...and she would have nothing if not her self respect...let's see she spent part of her life as a hooker in New York City .....so I'm really curious as to what he wanted her to do that she found so repulsive.....Can't imagine there isn't much she HASN'T done..hmmm

[WarriorSprit]

Metal you where TOO COOL. LOL

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

*W: I want another baby, I am almost at the age where I am too old to have one.  I want a dog, I want a cat...um, which is it...how about a baby cat or a baby dog...will that suffice?  Come talk to me when your brain is not full of rainbows and unicorns when you grow up*

This is hilarious!  Glad to know I am not the only one who gets the I-want-a-child-dog-cat noise from their MLCer; just another grasp at elusive "happiness".

[Phoenix]

I particularly loved the day my h sat me down and with great sincerity told me that I needed to stop being in denial and come to terms with the fact that we have too many incompatibilities and always had. He told me that while he and OW are perfect matches for each other, I need to accept that I am too smart, too deep, too clean (his hygiene got funky after BD), and too healthy, and that I like to read and connect with people.  I asked him if he was criticizing me or helping me write a future dating ad?  He just looked at me and said, "I feel bad for you that you cannot accept these truths."  I calmly, and with all sincerity, thanked him for explaining all of this to me and acknowledged his perfect compatibility with a dumb, shallow, dirty, unhealthy person who cannot connect with people. He just nodded in appreciation that I finally understood. 
Phoenix

P.S. Anyone else notice that the forum's spell check tries to replace the term "MLCer" with Ulcer?  How apropos.

[summer progress]

P.S. Anyone else notice that the forum's spell check tries to replies MLCer with Ulcer?  How apropos.

OMG! LOL! That cracked me up!

[Phoenix]

P.S. Anyone else notice that the forum's spell check tries to replies MLCer with Ulcer?  How apropos.

oops! that should have said "replace" not replies.    I fixed it in my post.

[kikki]

I calmly, and with all sincerity, thanked him for explaining all of this to me and acknowledged his perfect compatibility with a dumb, shallow, dirty, unhealthy person who cannot connect with people. He just nodded in appreciation that I finally understood.   

That is very funny Phoenix

Just remembered, after reading Wed2 on Mama's thread - talking about her PJ's, that a few months before BD, my H complained on many occasions, that he only liked it when I wore BLACK clothing!  Asked me to get rid of anything else out of my wardrobe 

You can imagine how well that went down with me 

I guess he knew Death was on it's way or something???

[Phoenix]

I guess he knew Death was on it's way or something???

H's and OW's pet names for each other are: Gomez and Morticia (from the Addams Family--is that familiar to you in NZ?)  I can't begin to imagine the significance of that.

[kikki]

H's and OW's pet names for each other are: Gomez and Morticia (from the Addams Family--is that familiar to you in NZ?)  I can't begin to imagine the significance of that.

OMG Phoenix - that had me rolling around on the floor laughing    Yes, am very familiar with the Addams Family.
How do you know this with a vanisher?  Are these people for real?