[nah]

My son physically looks like my ex but is not at all like him. He talks to his dad but is much closer to me.

As strange as this sounds my daughter is now close to her father and hasn't talked to me in about 2 years.  She has been manipulated by him and his family.  If anyone else on here has this issue with their adult children, we talk about it on my3girls thread.

I'm not sure how often he sees or talks to either of them but I don't think it's often. 

I call my husband a vanisher but I can contact him and he will answer. Just yesterday he "accidentally" transferred $2000.00 out of my account to his account. I contacted him in a very blunt and business-like tone so he immediately apologized, corrected the "mistake" and made excuses with multiple apologies again. I didn't respond.

He use to make close to 1/2 a million a year, he is now in debt with less than $100 in his account.

Let them go and protect yourselves or they will bring you down with them.

[Loyal]

He use to make close to 1/2 a million a year, he is now in debt with less than $100 in his account.

Let them go and protect yourselves or they will bring you down with them.

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Agree with you 100% Nah. P hasn`t actually said it out loud but sometimes he gives me the impression that he`s not as financially secure as he was before he lived the high life during his excessive Replay, which went on for a few years and during which he must have spent a fortune. Since he came back in November he`s been practically counting every Cent and has become extremely stingy.

[Tyks]

Nah... that lettter sounds like something my h wrote as well. It is so weird. It is like they have a script they all get hold of. Also... my h is a vanisher but if I contact him about the kids or whatever he replies in kind immediately. Once he replies I also do not reply if it is not necessary.

[Not Applicable]

My husband is so atypical in some ways for an MLCer. He said nothing but nice things about me to OW to the extent that she feels she will never be as precious to him as I am. Up front he said to her, "C4E has never wronged me and I will never leave her."

And as he started replay he practically begged me to give him a reason why we should stay together. So I thought of something unique about our relationship that OW could never replicate and he agreed that it was good enough reason. So here we are still.

Inside out lizard brain I guess.

[nah]

I have no idea what the Leaver has said to the girl about me. I have seen her twice and both times she turned her back and put her head down. She's scared to death of me.  She has never really mattered to me.

As for what the Leaver says to others?, it's always the same, "Nah and I weren't on the same page but now we are best friends."   

[Mary A]

Interesting thread ! My husband also said apart from the ones mentioned...
he thought of his future and wasn't sure if he wanted me in the picture,

That he didn't feel like sharing his life with me at the moment. Maybe in two,five or twenty years time, things would be different.

And that he had a lot of love to give ... to whom??? Apparently, not to me

[bluerose]

Best friends? I really would like ro know their definition of friendship. If this is how these guys treat their friends i want no part of it. Not that i would have to worry. My h has told me over and over again how we were never friends.

[UnbrokenLioness]

My h just told me he hasn't been over to see the kids because he can't stand being around me anymore. Why? Cause I called him out on his lies?

[bluerose]

They will say anything to place blame on someone eles and justify their behavior wont they?

[BrenM]

Totally agree!  If only they could listen to themselves and hear their pathetic and lame excuses they would understand....guess that is impossible in the MLC fog. 

Definitely agree that it is all about self justification for the Mlcer's brain. If they say it, it must be true.  It is very sad when they start to believe their own lies and fabrications.