[The lighthouse]

Oh dear RT  .  It wasn't long ago that you had a sinus infection was it?  Maybe you're still not 100%.  Take care.

[Reallytrying]

Thanks MD.
LH - it was about a month ago that I had that. I thought I was fully recovered. The really frightening thing is that I was feeling perfectly fine all the way until suddenly I wasn't. It happened so quickly. I felt out of sorts all day after that with a faint headache but thankfully woke up feeling ok today.

[The lighthouse]

I think something like a sinus infection can tend to set the body back a bit even if we think we feel better.  I'm glad you feel better today. 

[KeepItTogether]

RT that is so scary--glad you are ok! Dehydration can really wreak havoc! Take care.

[Reallytrying]

Most of the time H doesn't surprise me or deeply upset me anymore but every now and then he does stuff that truly makes me sad at who he has become.

There was a concert that D had been wanting to go to. On the spur of the moment yesterday when I saw that tickets were still available and not too expensive I thought she and I would go. I texted h to let him know and see if he was available to come hang with S. S is 12 and I know capable of staying alone, however, I do not like to leave him alone late into the night especially when we are far away. For us to go he would need to be alone from about 6pm to at least midnight. If he's alone that late I will not relax - even d was not ok with him being here on his own that late.

H said he could come. I texted about 15 minutes before we left to say we were leaving. His reply "ok". I asked s to text me when h got here so I could relax. S texted a bit after 9pm to say that h had arrived. My guess was he was originally planning to spend the night at OW - so I guess ok some level I should appreciate that he changed his plans to help with his kid. Then a bit after 11 s texted to say "dad left by the way".

Seriously?  H said he was tired - which I figured since he pushes himself hard on weekends. I get that but he could have put S to bed and dozed off on the couch - he doesn't live far. Instead, he leaves. S isn't comfortable going to bed when there is no one else in the house. D and I didn't get home until almost 1am - there was S waiting for us. He didn't look fazed in anyway but I am stunned. D was quite upset that he left S here. My original H was so not a deeply selfish person that it is hard to reconcile at times who this man is. And it make me sad to see him chip away at the beautiful relationship he once shared with his kids.

D and I had a great time at the concert. I am so grateful that we have the type of relationship where she doesn't mind doing stuff like that with me. I am also grateful that the kids are older so that even if H isn't full participating we can still do spontaneous things. I have another concert coming up in a couple weeks with my girlfriends but that one won't be a problem because I'm ok leaving them when they are both home.

[MourningDove]

MLC selfishness, indeed.  Wow- I think I would be sad too.

Glad you and D had a good time at the concert

[Thunder]

They just can't give TOO MUCH of themselves, can they?   

Sorry he left him alone, Really.  I guess next time maybe someone else should be asked.  You just can't count on them to do the right thing.   

[Puzzled]

Hi Really,

I totally understand why this gets to you, how inconsiderate and unreliable!

Reading about your experience with your H brought back how I felt last week when my H announced that he will arrange flying back to where he now lives before D8's 9th birthday party starts.  I still don't get why a parent who declares that they deeply love their child would do that.

Puzzled

[Milly]

Really, first of all how lovely that you got to go to a concert with your D. What a treat for both of you!

Regarding your H leaving S, it's just so disappointing isn't it? I asked my H to look after S12 this past winter. It was during the day but all day, so I could go to my girlfriend's 50th birthday do. H said ok, then took S to Florence and showed him all the places he went to when he first met me, then took him home, couldn't open the door, the "keys wouldn't work" so left S sitting outside the house by himself in the middle of nowhere, in the cold with no coat for 2 hours until I got home.  H left and went off to OW I think. So I totally get your frustration/anger/disappointment/sadness. It's unbelievable. They just can't be trusted.

[31andcounting]

Hope you truly are feeling better Really!  You should look into you getting checked out, passing out at a gym class is not normal and MLC takes a whole lot out of us LBSers.  Please promise to have a check up?!

As far as H and leaving S12, he sure shows he's in crisis with that one!!  Selfish all about H again.  I've got nothing??? Maybe he left for OW who knows. She does sound as though she is a bit miffed with him at the moment.

Love the fact that you and D went to the concert together, what a fun mom!!!
(hugs)
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