[Reallytrying]

MD - he definitely is paying attention lately. He even asks questions about things I've said - which always surprises me.

KIT - he really does love fruit. As I was reading your comment earlier he was sitting there munching on a grape. I couldn't help myself I laughed out - glad he didn't ask me what I was reading.

H was chatty today. I had to take my car in for service and he was very helpful in making sure they were doing the right thing. We had several logistical things to discuss, pipes, roof replacement, kids chores, etc so we texted back and forth. One of D friends invited her to the movies tomorrow so they miss school - I thought that was bizarre but ran it by him. He thought it was crazy. It was nice to see that as a general rule our parenting values remain very much aligned.

He is headed out of town for a boys weekend leaving this evening. So I was surprised to hear the garage open and see him come in. First thing he did was comment on something he saw that was broken in the garage. He spent a few minutes fixing it before he came back inside. He said they were supposed to have already left but one of the guys got caught up at work so was running late. So he decided to come by for a bit before they left. Hung around for about 30 minutes before he left. On his way out he chatted with S about his game this weekend. I got the feeling that even though he'll enjoy golfing he's sad to miss S's game this weekend.

I have senior lunch at work tomorrow and graduation is Saturday. Some of the students graduating this year I have known since they first started as freshmen. I feel like a proud mom as I prepare to watch them graduate.

[Savoir Faire]

Your H sounds like he is less foggy RT, how lovely it was he came to see you before he left for his weekend.

Enjoy the graduation on Sunday

[31andcounting]

My father in law gives my Tupperware back to me when he's ready for a "re-fill".  Maybe H is looking for a fruit salad re-fill!!!

yes, he does appear less foggy for sure!  Even better that he appears a little upset he is missing out by being gone for the weekend 

You have every right to feel like a proud momma, you have been very instrumental in these young lives!!!  Congratulations and enjoy!!
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[Reallytrying]

It's so odd because on one hand he seems less foggy and then the next minute is very distant. He was away all weekend and so I haven't spoken to him since he was here on Thursday. We texted a bit about logistical stuff on Friday and then about a kid's injury at S's game on Saturday (poor child was hit in the head and had to be taken away by ambulance). But that was the extent of the contact. He texted the kids a bit I believe over the weekend.

This morning he commented that he would call S later because he was on the train. Which means is off on a business trip but didn't mention it. He told D when he spoke to her this morning that he was traveling so he'd "see her whenever". That comment definitely seemed to hurt her feelings.

As I was opening mail today I saw that he had changed his address on some stuff to his current address - they send a notice of that change to his previous address. Ugh!

Graduation was wonderful and emotional. Some of those students have been in at least one of my classes for the past 4 years. So sad but proud that they are moving on. Had a lovely time with friends at a concert last night. So grateful that my kids are old enough now that I can head out whether he's there or not.

[MourningDove]

I guess the MLC fog must be a lot like fog in nature - thick coverage in some areas and then thinner in others.

I can see why his comment to D would hurt her feelings. My D would have felt the same way. These MLCers really do not think

Glad your semester is over and graduation was a success Are you doing the "summer dance" yet? I was at our college today an it was like the plague hit - LOL. The hallways were beyond quiet. Well, not really quiet - there were jackhammers going most of the morning as construction and repairs for the summer have started - LOL

[Reallytrying]

Turns out h business trip was only for yesterday. S told me this morning that daddy was back. I was having people from work over for lunch and my very good friend (who is pregnant) was having car trouble. She got here but was worried about getting home. I texted H and he said he'd come over to look at it. He came over and fixed the car for her. I gave him lunch. He commented that it wasn't a bad deal - getting lunch to fix her car for her 

I introduced him by name to some of my co-workers. After he chatted with them for a bit he left with his lunch. One of them says "he was cute, who was he?" 😂😂😂

[Reallytrying]

I forgot to mention that when he came over he brought something for D14 who was home sick. He brought her one of those fidget spinners. Such an odd gift.

[KeepItTogether]

Oh I know all about that fidget spinner--they are huge with the kids. So makes sense that an Mlcer knows exactly what they are!

So odd about lunch RT. Seems like he really wants to be in your life. I think if I needed something my H would do it too.  But he's way too afraid rt now to actually spend time in our house for, heaven forbid, a meal say.    But your H seems to be right at home. Interesting.

[UrsaMajor]

Oh I know all about that fidget spinner--they are huge with the kids. So makes sense that an MLCer knows exactly what they are!

Yep... S has 2 now (he got a 2nd one yesterday) and his mom had no clue what they were... I guess my Mid-Lifer is more out of it than most...

So odd about lunch RT. Seems like he really wants to be in your life. I think if I needed something my H would do it too.  But he's way too afraid rt now to actually spend time in our house for, heaven forbid, a meal say.    But your H seems to be right at home. Interesting.

I had that same thought KiT... Like he really WANTS to be there but then freaks out for some reason and runs away.... Mine seems to be much more comfortable spending time in MY apartment than she is with me spending time in HER apartment.... Of course, mine is comfortable whereas hers is sterile...

[Reallytrying]

The kids have definitely been enjoying the fidget spinner. UM & KIT he has always seemed comfortable here - some times more than others.

Tuesday evening I went out with friends and h took s to practice. He didn't hesitate when I asked him even though he has a standing event on a Tuesday evening. He seemed to hang out with the kids for about when they got back but he was gone by the time I got home. I had gotten a text from S teacher about him using his phone in class (first time a teacher has ever said anything about S - hello middle school 😄). I sent it to H. When I got back I asked h if he had spoken to S because I didn't want to belabor the issue since s really is a good student and this was the first time (he has a 99% average in the class that the teacher texted about). H said he mentioned it to him but I should really discuss it. It truly is fascinating that he doesn't see himself fully as the parent.

He came over last night. I must admit I found this surprising - he can't have seen ow much in the past 2 weeks because he's been traveling. He hung out with D watching tv. When he was leaving I mentioned that we were going out of town on Friday night for my cousins graduation so could he watch the dog. I fully expected him to say no - it's Friday night of a holiday weekend. He said he could walk him Friday night but not Saturday because he was playing golf early. But then he came up with alternative suggestions so that now we have a plan for the dog. Again, I was surprised that he was available or golfing. He seemed almost hurt that we were going to cousins graduation and hadn't mentioned it - oh well. This cousin was born a few weeks before our wedding so is now turning 19 😱.  My family will come back here after graduation for the rest of the weekend - I haven't mentioned that part to him though I know he'll be happy to see them.