[No expectations]

RT,

OMG I would have gone bananas on the school.   That is beyond anything needed.  And yes, robot man....what can we say??? 

[Reallytrying]

RT,

OMG I would have gone bananas on the school.   That is beyond anything needed.  And yes, robot man....what can we say???

Yesterday I was too upset to do much. Today school was closed so I'll be there tomorrow. This type of thing is usually better done by h because he's much less excitable than me. Hence that calm demeanor has become robot man. I fear that if they annoy me I'll lose my cool then they'll escort me of the premises and never let poor D back in 😂😂😂😂

[KeepItTogether]

Yours is robot man. Mine goes off on his lacrosse team so bad that he literally loses his voice every single night. MLC is good times.

[Reallytrying]

Lol @ KIT

The AC upstairs in my house is broken. It was 83 degrees when we went to bed. The ceiling fan in my room is not useful. It's either going so fast that I think it's going to take off or barely moving. I got some small standing fans that used to be in my office at work. Between the heat and the sound of the fans it totally felt like a summer night where we grew up. H and I spent many hot nights snuggled in bed under a noisy fan. For the first time in many months I woke up in the middle of the night missing him and all that we had. These feelings really do not go away easily.  I also ran into someone we were friends with years ago. She used to date my friend and we were always together as couples. She was theee with h and I when we bought our furniture for our first home which we still have now. She had a mini crisis herself and just told my friend one day she had to leave. Left and moved to another state. That was 10 years ago. This is the first time I've seen her since. Seeing her brought up some really fun memories of my early marriage but then the pain I remember her putting my friend through that I can relate to even better. All this resulted in that feeling of nostalgia that I felt last night.

This has been an interesting week. Started with us having a great time with my cousin's graduation. D even commented that she hadn't thought much about daddy (which is probably what began to upset her), moved the next day to the now infamous foot rub video and it was steadily downhill from there - culminating in a broken AC on a hot weekend. I'm tired! 

My friend called and I thought she was calling to apologize for hurting my feelings when she said I looked like the very hideous OW. But no, she never mentioned it. She wanted support about her own divorce. It made me sad to see that she couldn't be there for me the way I have always been available to her.

[hopeandfaith]

Do you find that you are better at spotting it when a friendship is unbalanced RT or have you always been good at this? 

I hope next week is a little less triggery (new word for you.

[Reallytrying]

Do you find that you are better at spotting it when a friendship is unbalanced RT or have you always been good at this? 

I hope next week is a little less triggery (new word for you.

I would like to pretend that I was always good but I think that might only have been with some people. With this particular friend as I was recounting what happened this weekend to my aunt who was visiting. She gently pointed out that it has always been the dynamic of our relationship. She's supportive but with jabs. Once I thought about it I realized she was right. This weekend seemed the most blatant.  it's sad to have to look back at one of your closest & oldest friendships with a new lens.

[Never say never]

RT, just starting to catch up on people.  I am so sorry you've been having some awful days in there.  Totally sucks.  And, yes, the school totally over-reacted on the three-day suspension.  Okay, she was out of her assigned territory ... doing nothing.  At best, a detention after school (if they still have them,) and a discussion asking her why she did what she did.  To me, that's a punishment that I would think could actually do more harm than good.  Crazy.

With the fruit saga, you guys had me LMAO!!!  Honestly, NoEx, you had to bring "bananas" into the conversation???   Hee-hee.  We have a whole fruit basket going on here

Stay cool.  Robot man is not capable of anything rational right now... only eating fruit.

[Shining Star]

It sounds as if we are both having a difficult week.  I think a drink soon is in order....

[KeepItTogether]

It sounds as if we are both having a difficult week.  I think a drink soon is in order....

Agree--cheers.

As for the friend being insensitive, I find that is the case more often than not. Many people don't really "get" when they make an offensive statement. I like to think that it is b/c they didn't mean it in an offensive manner\, so why would we be offended? Also, sounds like your friend is having a hard time with her own stuff too and so many of us cannot see others' pain b/c our own is so massive. But I do feel your pain. Thankfully we have this forum. Hugs friend.

[Reallytrying]

SS - that sounds fantastic!

Never - you are so right about Robot man. I had gotten so good at not expecting anything from him but this I honestly was let down. The cold distance from something related to his kid was still stunning - even after all these years.

KIT - the thing with my friend was I doubt she was purposefully being hurtful. It was just insensitive. My aunt commented that friend had been like that always. She even suggested that friend may even be jealous of my current hurt. Her separation and divorce is very bitter and ugly (her STBX is truly not nice).  who knows but now I know what I can and can't expect to receive from her emotionally.

I went to the school yesterday. The principal was a very rude gentleman and I honestly how I managed not to curse at him. He acknowledged that she was sitting on the stairs during her lunch - that's it. But basically said I can suspend her if he wants. I was seething. The saddest thing about the whole thing was how much I didn't share with H about the meeting with the principal. I'm still angry. Ugh.

I realize h is firmly in a$$ mode this week. I think he knows d saw the foot rub thing - it tells you who watches your story. It also tells you when someone screenshots the video so he knows D did that. My h is the opposite of Nagy in that when he's guilty he is a total a&&h@le - instead of being super nice to make up for feeling bad. I have barely seen or spoken to him this week on purpose.

Yesterday I was at a conference and he texted to say he would take s to game yesterday and today too. I was grateful for that. I hung out at the conference. My poster was on display and it got lots of positive responses. I came home to check on D who had been home all afternoon. I saw his car driving out abc I thought I saw D with him. When I got here to confirm she was gone I called him. He said they were going to get s from practice and go get something to eat. I commented that it would have been nice if he had mentioned it to me so that I didn't need to come home - silence. Instead of letting it bother I'd and I got back in my car and drove to bookclub (just down the road). I hung out there and had a lovely evening.

When I got back d said she had asked if they could go do something and he told her no because she was on punishment but that he didn't mind getting food. They hung out until about  9 and then he dropped them home. She said she asked why he didn't ho out on a Friday night anymore. He responded that he had to take s to practice. She commented that practice was over early enough for him to go out if he wanted and he commented that he guesses he's just too tired. He then left saying he was heading to bed - weird.

I'm on a panel discussion this morning and then volunteering at a local festival. He'll be back today to get s for practice. Lately his weekends have been very much dominated by the busy work of parenting a sports son - in the one whose been out and about - refreshing change.