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#50: May 13, 2017, 05:47:45 PM
I have had more random encounters with men of all age ranges in my entire life since xh ran away.  I was blown away the first few times because hey, I'd just went been dumped by a man half as impressive as many of these men.  lol  I wondered what the heck was going on, but this whole time, I was working out, eating well, tanning and my confidence came back stronger than it's ever been, and it's been full speed ahead ever since.  Almost every man I know thinks confidence is sexy as hell, so get your groove on and shine!  I truly think it has xh's head spinning and I find that so amusing and laughable.  Now, I know looks don't necessarily matter, but let's face it, they are the first thing a person is intially attracted to, and let me just say, Nah, xh's OW makes a car crash look pedestrian. And I am now enjoying the fruits of my labor and mirror work.  Life is good.
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher?3
#51: May 13, 2017, 07:31:24 PM
Quote from: beyonddone on May 13, 2017, 05:47:45 PM
Nah, xh's OW makes a car crash look pedestrian.

The old Affair Down..what is wrong with our Mlcer's?  Maybe eye sight is also affected 😂😂😂😂😂

My kids think the "Slore" looks like a horse - big head and teeth..how I love my kids honesty haha

Happy Mothers Day from AUSTRALIA all my fellow LBS's 😘😘
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher?3
#52: May 13, 2017, 08:28:33 PM
Quote from: Rossbren on May 13, 2017, 07:31:24 PM

My kids think the "Slore" looks like a horse - big head and teeth..how I love my kids honesty haha


Slore???  That is absolutely priceless!  Ranks right up there with beyond's "Gutter Troll".   ;D

And thanks for the Happy Mother's Day wishes, Ross.  It's going to be a great day. 
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#53: May 13, 2017, 08:32:54 PM
SLORE - a phrase my daughter picked up from the Kardashians.....a combination of two of the most lowest forms of a female...not a nice word at all, but appropriately fits the messed up OW...lol
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S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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Vanished Return Stories Thread #1 - https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9088.0;all
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#54: May 14, 2017, 01:43:36 PM
Attaching to your thread BR.
I m reading along.


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#55: May 15, 2017, 07:29:52 AM
Happy Mother's Day Ya'll!!!

Just curious... How many of ya'll heard from your mlcer for mothers day??

I wonder how many poke their little heads out, for holidays???

Have a fabulous day!
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#56: May 15, 2017, 07:36:25 AM
Quote from: MsMedfly on May 15, 2017, 07:29:52 AM


Just curious... How many of ya'll heard from your mlcer for mothers day??



No text for me.....but he did send his generic repetitive text to the kids......winning their...no one replied
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Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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Vanished Return Stories Thread #1 - https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9088.0;all
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#57: May 15, 2017, 08:41:52 AM
Wondering how many of you with vanishers or off and on-ers are still legally married to your H and that h/she is still financially responsible.  Do you have minimal contact with them?

H and I don't have kids together.  We own two homes together.  H still has stuff at the house.  I continue to be perplexed why he still continues to pay and not initiate a D.

I can only think it's obligation, guilt, fear of facing financial loss, or a little of everything.  Just curious as to how many others are in a similar situation.  I remember Chookie being one.
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#58: May 15, 2017, 10:03:38 AM
Quote from: MsMedfly on May 15, 2017, 07:29:52 AM
Happy Mother's Day Ya'll!!!

Just curious... How many of ya'll heard from your mlcer for mothers day??

I wonder how many poke their little heads out, for holidays???

Have a fabulous day!

I think everyone on this thread is also on my thread but yes, my MLCer did send me a "Happy Mothers Day message".... first time in over years.
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#59: May 15, 2017, 11:50:35 AM
I'm still married to my H and he's a vanisher / touch and goer BD was 8 months ago.

He still contributes to our joint account to pay the mortgage and he has stuff here - a lot of stuff. He has suggested he wants it but then doesn't arrange to get it. He has also mentioned divorce once but nothing materialised. 

I suspect he keeps paying because he is legally obliged to while he is on the mortgage and he hasn't done anything about it all really because that's just eth type of person he is he avoids.  he hasn't got around to it as its akward and will be a negative experience and as he avoids conflict he just 'ostrichs'


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