[BrenM]

Thankyou all so much!  I am relying on the timeline point of 3 years to see an improvement - I understand that I am setting myself up to fall again, but at the moment I desperately need something to hold onto.

Last Thursday the Slore pressed charges of Stalking upon me.  I have no idea of where she lives, works, who her friends are etc.  I have only seen her approximately 6 times.  She has been receiving text anonymous text messages and is trying to pin this upon me.   I pleaded not guilty naturally, but was charged and spent the night in the watchhouse.  Dressed in Jail greens and handcuffed.  I spent one night in a jail cell sleeping on a concrete floor.   I was bailed the following morning.  I have never in my entire life been treated and subjected to such a soul destroying experience...besides BD.

Two of my children where collected from home in police cars and escorted to the police station for questioning.  They were both charged for sending text messages to their father - fortunately they received juvenile cautions.  The text messages were far from friendly, but to be honest what did he expect?

Once again we are a shattered family.  How can this happen? I am a 47 year old woman and only have ever received one speeding fine in my life.  Now I am charged with stalking.  The OW made a statement saying that I was fixated upon her and blame her for the breakdown of my marriage. She lied on the police statement that their relationship commenced after my H moved out of the marital house. 

I intend to fight this charge with all my resources.

This is the reason for my low mood.  We are devastated.  My daughter is not coping again and I am seriously at my wits end.  How can a man who was loved beyond for nearly 30 years do this to his family?  Allow this woman to make these false accusations.   This will be more embarrrassment for all. 

I really have nothing...I am so angry, disappointed, shattered.....destroyed.   

[xyzcf]

 

They are no words Brenross.

I pray for your comfort..please, please take good care of yourself.

What kind of horrible people are there...that would do such a thing? For what reason? And how oh how can the men that we loved, allow such a thing to happen?

I am so sorry. ((((HUGS))))

[Still Half full]

Good grief Bren, I'm so sorry that you've been put through that ordeal, it sounds horrific

I'm really struggling with finding the right words, it's disgusting that you and your children can be treated that way, I'm really sorry and thinking of you

[lulu]

Hugs to you Bren. These people never cease to amaze me...their conscience will catch up...

[BrenM]

I am at wits end how my ExH can once again do this to his kids....especially his daughter....she has tried to commit suicide twice...he really just does not care any more.  She cried herself to sleep when I was in the watchhouse - fortunately S2 hugged her all night. 

Throw drama at me, I am an adult and can handle this the legal way...but don't hurt my babies.  I am a conflict avoider and she obviously knows that. The police are saying that I have contacts on my Apple phone for anonymous websites.  There are no such contacts that I have entered or can even view.  I phoned Apple and they connected into my phone and recorded their testing. Their testing came up with nothing. The rest of the evidence is circumstantial with absolutely no evidence..it is a joke.

Thankyou very much for the inbox messages.  They have helped immensely.  Yes I do agree that she is baiting me and my family.  Playing her games to make us all distance ourselves from my H. I guess if he believes he has no-one who else does he turn to?

[Snowdrop]

Last Thursday the Slore pressed charges of Stalking upon me.  I have no idea of where she lives, works, who her friends are etc.  I have only seen her approximately 6 times.  She has been receiving text anonymous text messages and is trying to pin this upon me.

Probably sent them to herself to make her look like a victim and you the "crazy ex-wife".  We know they have no limits and will go to extremes to feel relevant.  I'm sorry you are going through this.  You will get through it just like everything else, one step at a time. 

[Mitzpah]

Brenross,

I am sorry that you are the recipient of such evil behavior. Surely, the fact that you are divorced should distance you from this kind of abuse?

I weep for your children How devastating for them.

I hope you are able to defend yourself from these false accusations, I pray that the courts see the total injustice you have been submitted to.

[Nas]

Thankyou very much for the inbox messages.  They have helped immensely.  Yes I do agree that she is baiting me and my family.  Playing her games to make us all distance ourselves from my H. I guess if he believes he has no-one who else does he turn to?

On the other hand, if he has no one else, he has only her.  And really, how else is he going to be forced to see her for the truly BPD toxic person she is (and truly see that he got himself to where he currently is) than if he finds he's lost everything and is truly left with nothing but her. 
Your situation is extreme and this is abuse.  You don't have to completely turn your back on him or stop believing in him, Bren. But maybe it would not be such a bad thing if he starts to really believe you have.  Just food for thought.

[stillbaffled]

Oh man, Bren.  I am so sorry that this has happened to you and the kids.  You certainly don't live in the USA because where I'm from I've never heard of anybody spending the night in a jail cell because some moron has accused them of sending anonymous text messages!        

OW has your MLCer under her spell for sure.  How very, very sad and pathetic. 

Hang in there.  We are here to lend as much support and encouragement as we can.   

[UrsaMajor]

I'm thinking counter-file charges of libel/slander, false reporting to authorities, demand to see the police ëvidence" that they claim with a lawyer, providing the test report from Apple under seal..... and filing for a restraining order against the OW AND xH

Text messages are NEVER totally anonymous... They can usually be traced to an IEMI (Individual Equipment Manufacturer Identification) number that is specific to each and every telephone in the entire world, even if the outgoing number is suppressed..

Charged with sending text messages to their father? WTF? Does he have a no contact or restraining order against them/you? If he doesn't, how can charges be filed?

There is more to this than the OW whinging about anonymous text messages with the way you were treated... I'm smelling a rat here....