[PJ Ames]

Marvin is right. It can be highly significant or of no consequence whatsoever. Try not to make yourself crazy reading between the lines. And as always - respond not react.

[UrsaMajor]

It is probably nothing more than she doesn't want OM's van in her driveway...

The security Post to keep OM from parking and the Motorcycles in the garage have absolutely NOTHING to do with each other, nothing in common, except that both ideas originated in the Swiss-Cheese-Brain of a Mid-Lifer.... I mean, will a Security Post keep you from accessing the bikes? No. Will your moving the bikes somewhere prevent OM from parking his van in the driveway? Also no.... The only common thing MIGHT be if she wants his van to "disappear"  when he is there so wants the garage clear so he can park inside but I kind of doubt that... Otherwise, the Post option wouldn't BE an option.....

Just more spew from the

[John T]

She wants rid of his van that was there to make it hard to access the garage, she's suggesting rehoming some of my motorbikes if that's not possible then putting a security post in to protect the garage form being opened to stop the bikes being stolen .There was no direct ' I want your stuff gone .The garage can't be used to fit a car in .

 It seems like the OM is no longer wanted in her life by the way she phrased the email .

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions 🤔

[OffRoad]

What I heard was van leaving, garage has no lock and could be opened(?), warning you that someone could steal your bikes if you don't move them or put a security post in  (which I'm not sure I understand- but my garage has a lock and no one could get in so nothing is in danger).

In MLC  this could translate to being concerned for your property to wanting the space to clearing out EVERYONES vehicles to it's Thursday so why not. Bottom line, if the bikes are important to you, make sure they are safe. That is really all you need to concern yourself with unless she really just wants a security post. She'll need to ask for that specifically if that is what she wants, though. It's not your job to guess.

[John T]

My W has just messaged after a month of NC with usual chat , but she's asking if I could move the motorbikes out from my old garage or at least put a security post in to protect the garage , she doesn't want om van on her drive any more , sounds like that dying a death .
She's said she can be out of the way if needed .

Is this her clearing me away for good

[Thunder]

Hi John, I guess I would just ignore her request.

Just make sure the garage is locked up.

[John T]

So I've collected one bike and sold another one , the reason to remove them became clear the om van had got a load of her stuff in the back and because she wants it gone there wasn't enough space in the garage  to get her stuff in there , now two bikes have gone there's space so much so she's suggested me leaving the last there until spring .

There was a flurry of emails from her and all of a sudden she's very apologetic saying  in bold capitals ' YOU DID NOTHING WRONG ' her brain caused this situation etc etc .

[Thunder]

John I'm not sure about your whole story and I'm sorry, I will catch up...but it sounds like she has no right, right now to demand anything.

Maybe just do nothing for awhile and figure out what you want.

[John T]

The bikes need to be rehomed as I've lost interest in them since the day of bomb drop they've been sat there for 2 years untouched .
So the request isn't unreasonable , it's the sudden acknowledgement of the pain she's caused me that's thrown me . She's just ordered the same fitness watch as me as well.

[UrsaMajor]

To risk sounding like a broken record...

She can talk all she wants but until consistent actions are shown, it don't mean a thing... Her acknowledgement may be her peeking out of the tunnel, it may be a momentary flash of clarity and compassion, it may be a way for her to relieve her guilt... It may be like tasting green with your elbow.... Until the rubber meets the road, until actions and words are the same, until her actions and words are consistent and constant.... You know...