[Nas]

That amount of money for one day turns my stomach.
I’m sorry, Helpnewc, I know this has been so hard.

But I hope hearing this was validating for you:

The girls said they want more time with their dad.

[Helpnewc]

Yes, it was.

And then to complete the circle of madness. I have been asked to have the girls 7 nights this fortnight which was the very proposal rejected the same day at Mediation.

Just get on with it.

[Treasur]

Out of interest - bc I presume there’s good reason for it - why are you not insisting on 50/50 now you know your daughters’ preferences? Bc of course your stbxw’s ‘review’ is not worth the invisible paper it’s written on….

[Helpnewc]

Hi Treasure,

I am insisting on 50/50 but the family court is slammed in Australia.

Unless there if family violence, it will take a year to get a hearing. And we had to have a mediation first which she kept stringing out.

We will file next week and get in the queue.

[Treasur]

Ah, I see. Thank you for explaining - that must feel terribly unfair in the circumstances, I’m so sorry.

[FrenchHusband]

So today we had our child inclusive mediation. The girls said they want more time with their dad.

My ex then put an offer that we would review the situation in 12 months. Which really was not an offer at all.

$12000 for the day and just no sense.

We will file and hopefully in about 12 months some sense will prevail. The whole thing is very odd.

$12000 a day for that nonsense ? Yes it is crays nonsense, whether it be US§ or Australian § ! With this money you could have done a great vacation with your children, maybe a travel around the world ?
That shows us how this much this MLC can damage and waste ressources... Anyway what is more important, you are stronger, good for you and good for the daughters. Courage and faith my friend, you are doing well !

[JohnnyBravo]

Sorry to hear about that, Helpnewc. The whole thing is a huge waste of resources and memories. Strength to you as you proceed.

JB

[Helpnewc]

Thanks all,

It’s just money and I am fortunate that I do well at making it.

The frustration is the constant effort to keep the status quo while accusing me of delay.

I settled the financial stuff in December. An agreement was sent in early January. It was half returned in May. At the mediation, I am accused of delay and I politely hit the roof.

It’s all shark eyes and secret boyfriends. It’s all I just want to be a good parent but I want to get drunk and be a twerp.

I delay having a mediation for 10 months and turn up and don’t make an offer.

The bear has been poked. Fortunately, he is a polite bear but the holding pattern game is over.

I need finality for my daughters and for me. It has been heartbreaking to hear the things they told the child inclusive mediator. My littlest saying but where did the love go and how do we get it back.

The kids are not stupid.

But I simply cannot have someone capable of this level of dishonesty in my life in a significant way. Regrettably, she will be to a degree but I hope to minimise it.


I don’t know who the new dirtbag is but I have avoided finding out. My focus is my kids and winning the fight on equal time.

[Helpnewc]

So I am on day 3 of a hospital admission as the COVID got into my heart and has caused some damage.

The good news is I should recover after a lot of drugs and time. 9kgs of fluid was drained from abdomen and I feel a lot better.

I am very fortunate that we have a fantastic universal health system in Australia but it is a lesson in taking action sooner. I had been very unwell for two weeks.

I do think that 2 years of terrible stress has had an impact. I encourage other LBS to get a check up.

[Treasur]

I am so sorry to hear that, Help, and glad to hear you are getting the medical care you need. All of us here are sending you our best wishes for a good solid recovery xxx