[Foxberry]

Yes it all sounds familiar doesn't it..... the emails from OW over Easter to my H when he finished with her by email!!! were wierd....the content was almost like SHE was the wife and I was the interloper? They both mention this word "happy" so very much - like it is constant state of being.... life isn't constantly "happy" - but my H thinks now he should be in a permanently "happy" state....almost like he has "earned" it ... what about my happiness and our Son's...?  I make him "unhappy" just by being "me" it is so sad and makes me feel so bad about myself that a twice divorced, cheating woman can make my H change virtually overnight into a selfish, compusive liar.  Oh BTW - OW certainly can't be with my H for money as he doesn't have any!!!!! i think she was drawn originally to his work title, car and his "image", but she must have found out pretty soon that - that's exactly what it was "image" he has debt - I have debt, his car is leased and he will spend the rest of his life supporting me!  So no money there then!     At the moment OW is putting a roof over his head and paying for everything including a bl**dy holiday to Spain for this new "pretend family" next week.... is she desperate or is she desperate?

Fox xxxxx

[Tiffany Dee]

My OW was my best friend, lives 2 blocks from my home, children in the same class at school etc.  I eventually moved schools and just avoid malls in the area.  They show absolutely no remorse for their actions and cannot even see the pain they cause their children. 

What gets me through is what a "blessed" r they have:

A r with a foundation of lies, deception & sin
Children on his side who hate her and on her side who hate him
Financial issues because h has to give me his full salary to support his 4 children
Family & friends who pretend to accept them but have nothing good to say behind their backs and have no respect for them
Children who do not respect them

The list goes on and on

How long can you be happy and "in love" with this type r?

Keep strong

[Synicca]

I think it is safe to say that...the R's are all the same in some fasion.

I cannot even imagine these types of R's lasting...it's twisted, and like you say....Based on lies.

The very foundation that needs to Hold an R together is distroyed by deciet. WE LBS"s KNOW
that their bound to crumble...Nothing real about it. If we can hold on long enough...I think
we come out the winners here....( cross my fingers )

[Mamma Bear]

   Synicca I think our Hs are with the same OW. Upstate NY and a total mess. No car No cable No insurance No 7 yo son (he's with his Dad)..    How ironic this is. These crazy downward spirals from once outstanding men with great moral compasses.

[Synicca]

Mamma?

Is your H's Ow from Wilcott?? LOL

I guess thats a very small town. backwoods kinda place I hear..one street town.

[Mamma Bear]

 No we have civilization here and crack ows Plus I can be in Manhattan in 90 minutes

[Synicca]

LOL!!!!

Thats funny Mamma!!! I am sure there is Crack ows in Wilcott too??  hehehe I know my H met
Ow in a bar...WOW! what a shocker!!   

[Chrysalis]

My partner's OW is two years older than him, has four children from two marriages (going through divorce from her current husband) and has three grandchildren.

They are trying to relive the carefree days of their time at art school together thirty years ago.  If it was all so marvellous then, why didn't they stay together?  Strangely, neither of them can apparently remember why they broke up then.

I think she is probably going through some sort of MLC as well and isn't a golddigger as my partner earns a lot less than her husband.  She has no income of her own so he (my partner) is paying for everything.   When he came back for a week, he did tell me that she was very good at spending money and I suspect her lack of income will make it even more difficult for him to leave her as he will be worried that she will be left with nothing.  My heart bleeds....

[Foxberry]

Hi Chrysallis,

My heart bleeds for her too     I would certainly LIKE my H's OW's heart to bleed..... Miaow.... lol   Speak Wednesday
Fox xxx

[truth_seeker]

What would it hurt for you to keep a journal? You never know if you might need it.... I don't show it to my MLCer cuz he doesn't beliee in it's accuracy anyway, LOL!!

OW will become demanding of his time, and he will be low energy as well.... depressed and just "going along with some things".... and your kids will get the short end of the stick..... first comes OW needs, then kids needs, then yours, then his, with OW sucking up most of the oxygen from the get go....

I couldn't agree more!  I keep a journal of H's time with kids and it's VERY revealing.  Don't show it to MLCer but given that H couldn't stand to be away from his kids and me even for a day pre-MLC shows how screwed up they really are.  With me he was "free" to say and do what he wanted.   With OW he's "trapped and in a prison" without any "freedom" as she keeps him on a very short leash.   The leash is slowing turning into a noose around both their heads.  In time OW/H will hang themselves...just saying.   

TS