[StillHoping]

JB

thank you for sharing this.  I needed to read this, today.  After almost 2 years, my husband is slowly, very very slowly started showing signs of wanting to come home. 
I did what you said, I let him go, stopped snooping, stopped complaining, just let him go.  You are right, once I did that, and acted like I didn't care what he did, anymore, he started to slowly crawl back.
We still have ways to go, but at least it's a start.  My New Year's resolution for this year "don't look back, only forward"

thank you for sharing this story

Hope

[FindingJoJo]

its the bitterness that ends a relationship not the love  xxx

What a wonderful story JB and I think this statement is so very true.

As soon as you get your life back, show you're happy. He'll come running back. You'll see.'

Oh how many times have we heard to make ourselves happy because until we are happy and have a life, they won't come back. 

thank you for sharing that email it is special.

[justbelieve]

You're very welcome my lovely friends
I'm glad sharing it helps you as it does me.

stillhoping - that is great news! it's baby steps but it's a start.

Thinking of you all ♥

[calamity]

Friend of a friend--actually our children are the same age & this is a small town so I do sort of know them.  The couple are 45 - 50 yo, married +/-25 years.  Children in early 20's.

Woman mlcer--dressing younger, gym membership, sporty car, partying, then om.  The marriage was 'breaking down' she stayed with the h for a year or so [affair was fairly public], then moved in with om [with om 18 months as close as I can figure].  That was the last that I'd heard for a year.  Apparently 2 weeks ago she returned home.  No other details except the neighbour said she looks 20 years older.  Throughout her affair, her h pretty much ignored her; according to the neighbour 'treated her like a roommate'.  Don't know the truth of that. 

Like I said it's a small town & I will eventually get more details.  I feel like such a gossip. 

[FindingJoJo]

I like this though and yet again leaving them alone to go through this detaching is a key here.

[OnMyJourney]

I don't know if this was MLC or not but still a happy return story.  Beware of the surprise ending!

3 years ago I heard that a 73 yr old colleague (Mr. M.) had been apart from his wife for a long time and that they had reconnected.  His manager told me this and the words mid-life crisis came into the conversation with him joking that Mr. M. was too old to have a midlife crisis.

Shortly after I heard that, since reconnecting, Mr. M and his wife talk to each other everyday but he said they just can't live with each other.  Mr. M. has also talked to some colleagues about being in a very long and serious depression.  I really wanted to ask Mr. M some questions but I don't know him well enough.

Today I was sitting with him and commented on how I heard that he and his wife were apart for a long time but have gotten back together.  To my surprise he said, we're moving back in together next week after 20 years!  I was not expecting that...the number of years apart that is!!  Yikes.

OMJ

[Thirsty Duck]

Woman mlcer--dressing younger, gym membership, sporty car, partying, then om.  The marriage was 'breaking down' she stayed with the h for a year or so [affair was fairly public], then moved in with om [with om 18 months as close as I can figure].  That was the last that I'd heard for a year.  Apparently 2 weeks ago she returned home.  No other details except the neighbour said she looks 20 years older.  Throughout her affair, her h pretty much ignored her; according to the neighbour 'treated her like a roommate'.  Don't know the truth of that. 

About a week ago I was showing my D17 pictures of my W and I from when we were first started dating ~25 yrs ago. My D commented, "Daddy, you don't look much older now than ÿou did then." To which I said, "Do you think your mother still look young too?". My D replied, "No, Mummy looks a lot older now"

Yes, she does look older, tied and stressed...but to me, she still looks beautiful .

[xyzcf]

I was  at the chiropractor today and he was telling me a story of a couple he knew, both were very nice looking, had three kids and seemed to have a good marriage.The wife left and ran off with OM, married him. A few years later she told my chiropractor that there was something to be said for staying in marriage. She said she had made a big mistake. No idea where she is at now. Perhaps not MLC, perhaps not a reconnection story but we hear that many are not happy in their second marriages.

So MLCers, please loosen up and come home!

[Trustandlove]

A female acquaintance who had, in her own words, an early MLC, and who is even reasonably happy in her second marriage (this isn't marriage to an OM that was part of the MLC) said that in all honesty it hadn't been worth it.  She said that if she had known then what she knew now she'd have stayed, and said that her now H would also have still been with his original family had he known.  That made me think that he, too, had done something like this. 

Her original H closed the door fairly quickly, so restoration wasn't an option. 

[BennHurr]

Like I said it's a small town & I will eventually get more details.  I feel like such a gossip. 

its called research ;-)