[Bewildered]

Maybe some of us have not seen this story??
http://www.net-burst.net/help/breakup.htm

B x

[OldPilot]

I just heard of a possible return story that those who posted on DB will appreciate.
It is for one of my friends Seeking Answers.

Here is the link and if more info becomes available I will edit this post.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=53040&Number=2336017#Post2336017

[OnMyJourney]

XYZ -  I believe your comment about it taking a "catastrophe" to come out of MCL. 

An MLCer who started another forum with his wife many years ago has always said that it takes a crisis to go into MLC and it takes a crisis to come out of one.

OMJ

[Ready2Transform]

Unfortunately we WE think would be the rock bottom we need they view like a pinball game and just roll to the next hit.  It is impossible to create or predict, IMO.  There have been dozens of things that should have woken ol' Hoss up that any normal person would have been moved by - deaths, foreclosure, injuries, business failures, lies from the OW - but yet, the popcorn is still popping over here for the next episode.

[Anjae]

the popcorn is still popping over here for the next episode.

At this point think I would prefer no more popcorn = crisis over. Enough is enough, right? At some point they must become normal human beings again and just hit rock bottom... Or so I wish...

[alwayshope]

I wonder what it will take... I pray for God to do whatever he must to open H's eyes, first to the Lord, then to what he has done to his family... Some of the things that have happened during these 3 months you would think would wake him up a bit... no... D18 holding his phone when a picture text of EA came through, been since Feb. 21 and she is still not talking with him - D17 car broke down and nobody could find H to help, one of his cousins had to come out to help her get her car towed - I was sick/passed out, taken to emergency room in ambulance - D18 purposefully got wasted and texted him telling him it is his fault, etc... NOTHING is phasing him, at least that we can see... there have been other things as well, but I'm just praying for the big whammy.

[alwayshope]

Sharing a fascinating and encouraging story of a woman who stood for her marriage!  Start from the first post in the blog and follow it through to today - it will captivate you! 

http://www.standingformarriage.blogspot.com/

[LaughLoveLive]

I just in the last few days heard of two different reconciliation stories. Unfortunately I heard both stories from recently widowed spouses as the discussion was about dealing with their spouses estate. I don't know any details - it was not the time to ask those questions - but both marriages had endured a separation and reconciliation some years before. The separations must have been for some time because in both situations finances and property had been split and bits signed over to one or other of the spouses. Anyway, like I said few details but definitely two reconciliation stories for this thread.

[Slow Fade]

I can look to my Mom for a R story. My Dad had an affair, they were separated for two years when I was about 6-8 years old and they reconciled and were happily married until my Dad passed in 2003. They had 45 years together. I don't think it was MLC, but still. They found a way. God will make a way.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all you ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path.

[justbelieve]

I put this on my thread a while back and forgot to add it to this one. A wonderful lady I work with had her husband leave her three years ago. Had the whole affair, monstering etc. Total shock to her. I told her about me and my man and she tilted her lovely head back and said in a laugh 'oh JB. he'll be back! don't you worry' She went on to tell me all about her and her hubby and everything she said was as if she was right here on this forum. He wanted her back last year but she said no. She said they are better the way they are now but she knows exactly what i'm going through. She said  to me'while you're heartbroken and sad nothing will change. As soon as you get your life back, show you're happy. He'll come running back. You'll see.'
She sent me the email below and i read it every day. It keeps me going. So good to talk to someone in the 'real world' who has gone through this and survived. She chose not to take her MLCer back but the choice was HERS!

Her email:
I know where you both are you are both lost but you will find each other again."love takes time" it is worth waiting for,the love you and MrJB have,  does not come everyday, thats why you will both find each other again.for me it took too  long,  so we lost each other along the way.your time apart will make your bond stronger , when the time is right, your both hanging by a thread but  it is strong enough to  hold you both.
                   MrJB is lost at the moment but he is on his way back, trust me. the day will come when i say  "told you so".   when my friend came over from u.k,she was going through the same thing, i said he wants you to be bad to him he wants a reason. I told her not to give him a reason to leave her, i told her even when she is hurting, still show him love, don't give him a reason to leave, I said leave the bird cage open  and let him fly, and if he loves you he will come back........
   he was back and now they are much stronger.  its the bitterness that ends a relationship not the love  xxx