[Anjae]

How long does the average MLC AFFAIR last

Don't now the average lenght. OW1, to my knowledge (she may had enter the scene before) lasted 18 months. They never lived together.

OW2 is till lasting. There has been 42 months. They live together.


Is it an affair-down

Of course. OW1 did not mind to have a man that left his wife and home; OW2 does not mind to live, and provide her lawyer friend, with a man has eft is wife and home and is fighting his wife in court. None of the two OW can have a very sound personality. 


What Prolongs the affair, can we help it to break up?

No idea if we can help to break it. During OW1 I did all the "donts" it lasted less than OW2. With OW2 husband is a vanisher, I'm NC. It is lasting long and they live together. Unlike with OW1 I never talked about his R with OW2 and never asked him anything, except, last March, if she knew he was still marrried. He said yes. That was all.
My detachent and lack of contact with husband did not shortened the affair. Quite the contrary.
Think they are both in a narcissist trip. Husband is much more of a selfish narcissist than during OW1 and OW2 is the queen of vain (even more than the vain OW1) and narcissism.

How does the affair break-down and what are the signs?

I don't know. I was already back home when husband and OW1 broke down. Looking back, I can say that, on what I now where the final months, we was much nicer with me, even buying (and mailing me) small gifts.

Is there anything unusual about the affair?
Husband has a puclic life, a certain fame and level of success. That is very aluring and alows for a display window of husband and OW2 narcissism. I think that helps to prolong the affair. OW2 looks, physicaly, a lot like me. Almost a copy.


How does OW affair affect the MLCer
Would say OW2 made him more selfish and vain.

[Chrysalis]

How long does the average MLC AFFAIR last
As far as I know they met up at the end of June 2010.  She used to go out with him thirty years ago when they were at art college together and looked him up on FB.  BD was beginning of September 2010 and they have been living together since the end of September 2010 in rented accommodation and moved into a new house that they have bought together two weeks ago.  So they have been together nearly fifteen months.

Is it an affair down?
She is a couple of years older than him and from what his D says is pretty opinionated.  I don't know a lot about her other than that she seems unable to do much for herself.  When he came back for a few days in February he said that she had a difficult childhood and was quite needy.  Looks like it is Knight in Shining Armour syndrome.

What prolongs the affair, can we help it to break up?
I don't know what prolongs it.  She is now divorced and he is rushing to get a copy of his divorce certificate so that they can get married (asked his ex-wife for the details, hasn't told me).  Don't think there is anything I can do about it.  I assume she is pushing him to get married to legitimise a relationship that is just built on lies and deceit.

I have to talk to him as we work together but I don't know if the fact that he sees me makes it last longer or not.

Is there anything unusual about the affair?
I think they are both in MLC.  She was on her second marriage which lasted for twenty years.  She has four children - two from each of her marriages - and three grandchildren.

[Stillpraying]

I'm off to a meeting soon so just a very quick post from me and then I need to update my thread.

H told me yesterday (nov 24th) that he and OW are not seeing each other any more (his words).

I don't have any expectations.  I know they could be back together by the weekend or he may have truely ended it.

I don't know any more details, like who ended it and why.  He only told me so we could finalise property settlement as he needs the money to set up in a bigger place than the bungalow he's in.
The affair was made public 7 months ago in April.  I beleive it has at least been emotional for longer, perhaps a year.  I also believe he moved in to live with her in June as I found out he bought a bed on ebay and it was at her place along with all his clothes.

I read on Divorce busting that the affair last on average a month for every year of your marriage once it hits the light of day.  So I was wondering if this would last 10 months.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/blog/what-would-michele-say-q-a-how-long-do-affairs-last/

Let's see what happens next...........

[justasking]

 the affair last on avaerage a month for every year of your marriage once it hits the light of day

We had been married for 22 years before BD and he moved in with OW 2 years and 2 months ago. No expectations about times as  it will last as long as it needs to I suppose 

xx

[Mitzpah]

I read on Divorce busting that the affair last on avaerage a month for every year of your marriage once it hits the light of day.  So I was wondering if this would last 10 months.

Jeesh!!
So, according to this, my h.'s affair could last 26 months!! Mind blowing...
I am glad God is in control

[Anjae]

the affair last on avaerage a month for every year of your marriage once it hits the light of day

on that case, my husband has largely passed this. OW2 hit the light of the day 38 months ago. even if you count the 3 years we lived together before married, and the five since he left, he already passed that average of a month for years of marriage. given we do not have a marriage since 5 years ago...well...

OW1 did, more or less, lasted, since the light of the day, the time we had been together (10 together + 10 married).

[With Gods Help!]

My h met o/w in Aug 2008 from what ive heard it was a one night stand...........then he met her again in 0ct 2008 i found after BD in may 2009 and hes still with IT..........so either its 39 months or 37 months on and off.........hes broke it off that many times was goner buy a revolving door lol............this is the longest hes been away 9 months but most times ive asked h to leave........ 

O/w is 29 now was 26 when he met her......a single parent on benefits with a D6 whom was born out of a one night stand whilst o/w was in a relationship with some over man..........she was on the rebound when she met my h..........the man she was with previous to h left her in Spain  (she lives i the UK) with no money to get home her dad had to send money to get her home...pity he didn't leave her there lol ........

What prolongs the affair is the baby for h and emotional guilt and manipulation from o/w..........I think my h as plans to come home after Xmas.something tells me he wants to spend his first Xmas with the baby then he will leave..just little things he keeps saying..............but no expectations.........

O/w was on the rebound and my h is in MLC so yes a very unusual relationship shes fugly............my h doesn't go for ugly woman and shes both on the inside and out.............however they are a match at the moment cos their both messed up lol xxxxxxxxxx 

[Stillpraying]

Here's the link in relation to my earlier post.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/blog/what-would-michele-say-q-a-how-long-do-affairs-last/

[Freddygone]

Wow, I have been married 31 years.
From March 2009........Happy Christmas

It will be a Happy Christmas regardless. As it has been for the last 3 years, this train keeps going.

[Mamma Bear]

 Freddy, the train keeps going all right. Our train. Their train is a train wreck...hard to look away. Someone must've thrown that switch and it went onto the WRONG track for a head on collision   and they conductor wants them to pay up!!
   Happy Turkey Day!!