[LuvYourself]

xyzcf,
     Some days are very long and hard...I remember when I arrived home...a place I used to find comfort, which turned into a house of sadness ..the only way I could fall asleep was to tell myself the quicker I fall asleep, the sooner I was through this day and can move onto the next.  Try to take one day at a time...don't look back, don't look forward...concentrate on the present and moving through it. 





 

[trusting]

THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU....he's NOT doing this with the purpose of hurting you...his actions/choices are all about him...his wants/desires....it's him...his journey...his past....his issues. 

My head knows this very well.  My heart unfortunately is lagging behind and it is hard still to not take the rejection personally. 

Thanks for posting your story, LY.  We need all the hope we can get.

[rememberer]

Luvyourself,

Thanks for posting your story. Just wondering now you've reconciled ,if your H told you any revelations about what he was going through.

Big Hug xyz, it's awful how a regular 'bad day' is so extra bad when you're already carrying the load of this MLC, and all it entails. Be kind to yourself and hopefully tommorrow will be better.

[rememberer]

 I know a situation that happened with some people up at our cottage. There was a couple where the wife had an affair with a married man from her work. He was much older than her, and I'm guessing he was perhaps late 40's,early 50's. She was about 10-15 yrs younger. He left his wife of many yrs. and she left her husband(they divorced and her H went on to marry another woman and they had a child together, have a cottage on the lake too, and seem very happy.)

So, the adulterous couple were together for quite awhile, maybe 2 yrs or so. Then he got transferred out west for his job, and apparently she wasn't happy about that. They had a long distance relationship for a while, and then the woman started fooling around with another married man on the lake. He left his wife too for this woman who seemed to have no problem breaking up marriages.

I just heard the man went back to his wife. He was gone a total of about 3yrs. Everyone was shocked she took him back, but apparently they are very happy again.

It will be interesting to see how long this second affair of hers lasts, or doesn't. She has quite the reputation on the lake now for someone with 'lack of boundaries and morals.'

[LoveMeMyself]

This story reminds me of one I was told back in December (one year after my ex moved out).  Anyway, this woman was involved with a married man for about 5 years.  She had been divorced and had a small child at the time.  There had been another man in her life before her affair but she left him and moved to be closer to the married man.  She finally ended her affair with the married man because it wasn't working out and she knew in her heart it was wrong.  She moved back to her original home and one day ran into the other man she had left behind.  Anyway, long story short..........she and the other man ended up getting married and they are still together after about 10 plus years.  He is not the father of her child but he treats her as if she is his.  My ex has told me that we can never get back together but I do not let this statement bother me.  This is coming from a man in MLC and his thoughts are foggy and muddy.  I hold onto my faith and hope. 

[LuvYourself]

Rememberer,
     Much of the two years are very foggy to him...he can't remember certain events/conversations etc.   When we were discussing it the other day, he said it felt like we were talking about someone else's life...like he had woke up and it had been two years later.  We still need to start marriage counseling to understand why it happened in order to prevent a repeat, but he needs to be ready for that.  I don't think he's quite there yet.  I guess it's hard facing what you've done to someone you love.  He has much remorse, guilt, and shame....I can see his deep sadness whenever we dive into his MLC. 

[zinger]

LuvYourself,
Thanks so much for posting.  What brought you to this now?  Did your H pursue a Divorce?  Do you have kids?  Sorry to inundate you with questions but we LBS are like moths to a flame with a success story.

Continued success to you and thanks for sharing!

[Buggy31]

LY
I wonder if you'd be interested in starting a thread with your story.  It's totally up to you but the perspective of a return story can be so helpful to LBSs as a way to stay sane amist the insanity.  We so appreciate your sharing. 

HUGS
BUGS

[With Gods Help!]

Hi, Ly i agree thankyou for sharing your story and as the others say it does help when we see people reconciling it keep the rest of us with hope alive xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Buggy31]

 they are not even the 17yo, they are 2!

Absolutely LW ...and you know what my 3 year old does when I ask her to do something...the exact opposite...or when I tell her NO she says...I DON'T love you anymore....or she throws something....same thing...really