Specially, how to cope with MLCer in REPLAY. They are exact as people with PD.
With a big difference, people with PD's are medicated and can be perfectly normal if they follow medication and other treatment as well as change their lives to a way of living more suitable to their condition. No way one is going to have such thing with an MLCer.
Not all people with PD do it, of course, but those who do it can lead normal lives. Also, many people with PDs know that they suffer from one. An MLCer in Replay may, at least until a certain point in their journey, sense something is wrong with them, but don't know what they have.
And no point in telling them.
Since your wife did not suffer from a PD before she does not have one. Like you said PDs develop until late teens/early adulthood. Unlike mood disorders, who can turn up at any age. And by the way Bipolar is a mood disorder, not a personality one, so, technically, our MLCers could had start suffering from Bipolar at an adult age.
Still, I doubt that is the case. They are just showing signs of several personality and mood disorders.
Found this, it may help to understand a bit of our MLcers cycles:
"BPD and bipolar are often misdiagnosed as each other. Some people diagnosed with BPD actually have bipolar; the reverse is also true.
While only a qualified clinician can make a diagnosis of one or the other (or if both are present) there are three simple ways to distinguish bipolar disorder from borderline personality disorder.
Bipolar disorder causes dramatic mood swings, from overly "high" and/or irritable to sad and hopeless, and then back again, often with periods of normal mood in between. Severe changes in energy and behavior go along with these changes in mood. The periods of highs and lows are called episodes of mania and depression.
A cycle is the period of time it takes for a person to go through one episode of mania and one of depression. The frequency and duration of these cycles vary from person to person, from once every five years to once every three months. People with a subtype of bipolar (rapid--cycling bipolar) may cycle more quickly, but much less quickly than people with BPD (shifts can even last minutes/seconds).
According to Dr. Friedel, director of the BPD program at Virginia Commonwealth University, there are two main differences between BPD and bipolar disorder:
1. People with BPD cycle much more quickly, often several times a day.
2. The moods in people with BPD are more dependent, either positively or negatively, on what's going on in their life at the moment. Anything that might smack of abandonment (however far fetched) is a major trigger.
3. In people with BPD, the mood swings are more distinct. Marsha M. Linehan, professor of psychology at the University of Washington, says that while people with bipolar disorder swing between all-¬encompassing periods of mania and major depression, the mood swings typical in BPD are more specific. She says, "You have fear going up and down, sadness going up and down, anger up and down, disgust up and down, and love up and down."
from
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-walking-eggshells/201003/three-easy-ways-differentiate-bipolar-and-borderline-disorders
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