I have gone NC as well since Nye and Suffered 3 days of threats regarding not having access to the kids. I also have had to go NC with D15. This is only temporary but I have been used by D15 who has been playing us both off in order to gain more freedom. I know everyone is going to say she is only a kid but she has been hanging with OM and W as they have allowed her to go to the pub with them. She needs to learn a lesson as well to prevent her growing up like W.
I am now getting voicemails and W has sent texts saying she has apologised via Vm but I have not read the whole text as I think it will set me back.
Who knows she might even be trying to reconnect. Either way I am determined to go at least three months Nc as I no longer wish to cycle with her anymore. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Hi B.
I haven't read your story yet but my d is 12 and l just hate to think of what might be coming up, my heart really goes out to you. We've been sep 15mths.
So far it's been pretty peaceful on a whole and ex has been very helpful with my d and l. She even talked me into staying close when the house sells and l move . l ike 15mins close, which l want to to be handy for d.
But l don't understand so much with her and as l spend wed nights over there to be with d , it matters in a way.
Ex is normally chatty and stays home when l go to see d, makes tea and all, welcomes me in anytime.
But since V day and flowers beside her bed , she's been outside if l'm there and talked very little.
And then bc my d was away on camp and l hadn't seen her since she got back, was going Mon night to be with her awhile. Strangest thing , ex would normally say oh no problem yeah come over . But l get a strange text say they had stuff to do after school and could l just come wed instead.
l text her what stuff ? , no reply.
She done this before so as l was going past anyway l dropped in. Ex was still at work and d knew nothing about stuff to do.
Very strange and agaIN , since V day.
Ex got home an hr after l got thee , talking ok , said how she got called of at work late , no mention of the stuff they were supposedly doing , then she went outside and sat there playing with her phone. Again avoiding me.
First time she's acted like this , obviously 180ing me but what's happened.
Like you l've sucked up anger from day one to for my d. Although ex was good from day one with me and d, she left , destroyed her family , started seeing an om , took my daughter, not to mention the house we'd just bout and the trouble we went through to get it .
So strange , she said you can have the house l don't want anything.
We were in heaps of debt , it was a 3 yr plan though and after that we'd be laughing. 18mths in , this. Pretty sure escaping the pressure was big in this.
But although we've had a few al nighters texting and sorry's and regrets and guilt from her . She doesn't hassle me at all like yours. lf there's no money or d to sort l don't hear from her.
With the camp d just got back from it was our first 7days with nc. l wondered if she would but nothing.
ln a way l envy you , because yours seems to still need it , you , even if it's not pretty , she obviously does. Mine doesn't seem to , that really hurts.
Sometimes l'd rather a bit of abuse than nothing , leastit means se needs to talk to me.
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