I feel that if they keep right on going and never look back they were someone I wasn't supposed to be with to begin with. Emotionally UNAVAILABLE. Unable or unwilling to see the harm they've inflicted or in denial of it. And IMHO because it didn't happen to THEM. NO EMPATHY.
And anyone who could act and say the things that have been displayed to me? I definitely do not want anything to do with.
I wish no further contact with him or his mother. I was a doormat and a people pleaser and a scapegoat for them long enough.
I agree with Bellagio88 the only way I've found my way to a stronger sense of self respect is through no contact.
I stopped talking to his mother after I was again yelled at when she had overextended herself when all she had to do was OPEN HER MOUTH and tell me what her problem was. She really wanted to yell at him for all of this. I'm not making the same mistakes again. She had all ready done that once before. She paints herself like some sweet caring person? Believe me she isn't.
He and I fought like cats and dogs through the entire relationship I would specifically ask for what I needed he would flatly refuse it. But I kept trying. I thought I was the problem. So I stopped FEELING.
If you cannot communicate a need you cannot expect someone to be a mind reader. Most people don't because they are unwilling to make themselves that vulnerable.
There's nothing else I will ever need to hear from him it will be all lies and bull$hit anyway- and he'll get none of his questions (if he has any) answered by me either.
First up , againlike Bellls , who could blame you init and your right. It's all blown my theory competently to smithereens again. Mine didn't seem to look back and even this morning 15mths later when l was picking up my d , l'm still almost in tears as l've been on another very low with what's happened again just this wk. My daughter , everything .
But your right , zero comprehensions , zero and zero empathy. She actually cracked a joke to my daughter about the amount of stuff she packed.
Hello , my poor daughter now has to pack a bag every Saturday morning to go live with her dad for the wkened . And her dad , 15mths later , is still in tears 1/2 the wk from missing his daughter and not being able to live in the same house as her. And he still hurts to the bone over what she did too and this whole load of bs.
Nice as pie , friendly , helpful , but totally insensitive - still , to just what she has done to us both . lt's as if it's all some fun adventure for us , d's house , my house , of to dads , it fkg makes me ill and still cuts to the core.
And then so one day she says to me - What's all this Jeckle and Hyde stuff - she couldn't even get the emotional turmoil and roller coaster heartbreak she'd thrown me into. Apparently l should be all smooth and happy .
l hear you both , no worries there and now l feel like an idiot for even talking to mine let alone allowing nice.
l've also been trying to get kik working on my phone. Ex said , how come you want kik so bad , just use the phone or text.
Hello , my daughter has her ipad with her 24/7 , always charged , alway got a connection. Sometimes l can't get her for a wk on her phone because it's flat or runs out of credit , so l have to go through ex - She can't even see what the problem is or what it is lll have to now try to do to be the best dad l can under this bs. She can't even see the pain l'm in missing my d , and hwo l need to be able to reach her .
She even thinks it's all fun for d . Two houses and all.
The wks l've carried my poor d through this , in tears , the heartache watching and trying to make it better for her.
Your so right init.
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