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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#80: December 20, 2013, 10:00:54 AM
Last year H brought me some of my favourite perfume, I was flattered that he had remembered.

I didn't get him anything and I felt a little uncomfortable. 

This year I have bought him a small gift.  Just in case :-\
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#81: December 20, 2013, 03:49:19 PM
Nope...not getting H anything. Last visit a few days ago lasted 30 minutes and it he was telling me he is dead inside.  Barely got a Merry Christmas out of him while he was leaving...

So nope...no gift, no card, no text message with seasons greetings!

I just hope next year it will be much different.

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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#82: December 20, 2013, 04:40:28 PM
My wife is getting something round with a hole in the middle.........
TIRES. Hey it's what she wanted, LOL
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#83: December 20, 2013, 05:47:23 PM
The thought of going to her party and facing all her best friends in my old home is making me ill.

In bailing. Sorry kids... :(
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#84: December 20, 2013, 06:42:25 PM
Nope. Nothing here. I debated taking the kids out, and I even asked them if they wanted to get something for their mom. They weren't into it.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#85: December 23, 2013, 12:18:25 AM
Goofy singing Christmas card and gift cards to her favorite coffee shop. Token gifts. Useful gifts. Impersonal gifts.

Give nothing and I lose. Give too much and I lose.
So giving enough to say I thought about it.

Merry Christmas to all in this hard season.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#86: December 23, 2013, 12:22:22 AM
I took the kids to buy one gift for my W today. A hand made necklace in the shape of a Lotus flower with a crystal in the middle. Kids liked it the best.

I wasn't planning on getting her anything but decided that it was best if I did and made it more about the kids picking her something.

It likely won't matter in our situation. Who knows if she will even ever wear it.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#87: December 23, 2013, 02:28:13 AM
I have no advice, but just wanted to share my situation-can you say weird??  Been divorced long time and our last Christmas as a family, my ex and I were separated and he was not living in the home. Children wanted him there, so he came for awhile, but later stated he wasn't feeling well and left. We found out next day that he left to pick up OW at airport, so she could spend holidays with him!
So needless to say, he and I had not exchanged gifts since that day.  However,   for the past two years, he has gotten me a bottle of wine and dropped it off to me personally.  I have not gotten him anything.  This year, he got me a GPS for my car!!! SAid it was from my son[[who is mentally ill and has no money!]] What is up with that??? He still lives with original OW. I do not plan on getting him anything, since OW is in picture.
Hard to advise anyone in this situation. All I have to say, is that if children are young and want to get their parent something, perhaps you can help them with that.
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Re: Christmas presents for MLCers - Yes or No?
#88: December 23, 2013, 05:24:22 AM
I've not bought him a Christmas present from me - the girls chose a gift from each of them.  I did give him a card.  He bought me a present though - he left it under the tree - I can tell by the shape it's a CD (he always buys me CDs every year as long as I can remember).   :o
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ok.  we have a swift kick to the groin above the mantel.  Opposite wall: "Find Your Kid in this Class Picture"

Stocking holds one (1) fresh spine, with two (2) balls in the toe.

among the tree ornaments, you will find a bag of cat poop, surfer nutcracker, running shoe, coal, Mr. JD's Visa, mirror, and truth serum.
under the tree is a miner's lamp to navigate the tunnel, a nice bag of weed, and other things that should be fairly evident.

So????
How did all our little MLCers make out?
I gave my husband.....absolutely nothing.  Sure hope he got it in time.

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