I have no advice, but just wanted to share my situation-can you say weird?? Been divorced long time and our last Christmas as a family, my ex and I were separated and he was not living in the home. Children wanted him there, so he came for awhile, but later stated he wasn't feeling well and left. We found out next day that he left to pick up OW at airport, so she could spend holidays with him!
So needless to say, he and I had not exchanged gifts since that day. However, for the past two years, he has gotten me a bottle of wine and dropped it off to me personally. I have not gotten him anything. This year, he got me a GPS for my car!!! SAid it was from my son[[who is mentally ill and has no money!]] What is up with that??? He still lives with original OW. I do not plan on getting him anything, since OW is in picture.
Hard to advise anyone in this situation. All I have to say, is that if children are young and want to get their parent something, perhaps you can help them with that.