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#60: November 20, 2014, 08:24:09 AM
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Yes H has done this a couple of times. Currently he has stopped the exercise because the weed and alcohol took over. But he said he wanted to be skinny like he was when he lived with his grandma(early 20's) all he ate was white rice with milk and butter and shredded wheat. S told me he is doing that now. Minus the exercise.

Certainly a sign of trying to bring back youth.
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#61: November 20, 2014, 09:26:48 AM
Don't know of mine has gone goofy with food or not, but he started weight lifting, running (again) and consuming protein shakes.

Not that its doing a bit of good. He's still fat...probably all that beer and rum he drinks.
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Re: MLC script V
#62: November 20, 2014, 09:30:26 AM
Mine lived on cornflakes for about 3 weeks after BD, breakfast, lunch and tea.  But he ate loads of them, not normal portions.

Now as far as I am aware he just loves chocolate and biscuits (he always did but now no conscience telling him its not healthy) fat girl OW just joins him!
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Re: MLC script V
#63: November 20, 2014, 10:41:51 AM
My MLC friend got an eating disorder just before his affair. He says his wife was unsympathetic about it.

My H lost loads of weight early in this and looked very attractive to me. It was a combination of giving up beer, running and having constant stomach pain.

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#64: November 20, 2014, 01:03:45 PM
All these posts made me think about the cycling of H over the years. As I can see it he has been in and out of replay a lot. Constantly searching for something to make him happy.

Weight lifting, protein shakes, steroids. He wanted to get big. Then it was obsession with food gaining a ton of weight. Then it was he wanted to be skinny and lean so it was working out, running and living on protein shakes.

Now he eats rice, shredded wheat and drinks and smokes pot. Look where his search for happiness lead him.
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#65: November 20, 2014, 01:48:14 PM
My h is obviously obsessed with food.  He's really fat these days.  But his buddies are his biggest obsession.  Even more than ow was or is or whatever is going on there.  Who knows. 

I swear, and please don't take this wrong, but I sometimes wonder if h is struggling with his sexuality.  I could be wrong, but that has been nagging at me since right after this happened. 

H's taste in clothes has changed, but to things I would normally buy for him that he would take back because he didn't like them.  ???  Says he's broke and has nothing and can't afford support but he has Levi's on his butt.  The last time I bought him jeans I got him Levi's and he had a freaking fit. 

They are just nuts.
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#66: November 20, 2014, 01:53:57 PM
The new clothes obsession is something else. My H had very specific things that he would - if wasn't the right thing forget about it and he wouldn't even look at something different. Now he is buying all kinds of different clothes. Things he would never even look at before.

Quote from: toomanytearss on November 20, 2014, 01:48:14 PM
I swear, and please don't take this wrong, but I sometimes wonder if h is struggling with his sexuality.  I could be wrong, but that has been nagging at me since right after this happened. 

Why do you wonder this? I could see where it would fit in with everything else MLC.
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Re: MLC script V
#67: November 20, 2014, 02:01:52 PM
Quote from: toomanytearss on November 20, 2014, 01:48:14 PM


I swear, and please don't take this wrong, but I sometimes wonder if h is struggling with his sexuality.  I could be wrong, but that has been nagging at me since right after this happened. 

I would agree that that all struggle with their sexual identity. This is something teenagers do. And since they are struggling with identity to begin with, I would say yes. My H has verbally said things to me 2012 that made me wonder.
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#68: November 20, 2014, 02:03:26 PM
Because for a couple of years before bomb drop he became very close with his bff who at the time was just 19.  They are still bff's (very strange) they can't do anything without each other, h is very depressed when bff goes anywhere with his family, call and text constantly, like girls.  And h talks about him constantly.  It's also one of the things h said he left me over.  That I didn't like his bff.  I never said I didn't like him or his gf and their wild child.  I just don't have much in common with them. 

When we were dating some of his friends (so called) told me he was gay.  I didn't believe them, thought they were being spiteful.  His bf didn't tell me that, but he did take me to lunch and told me to not marry h.  He said run, the family is awful and you aren't getting what you think.  About 10 years ago his bff then was a gay man that used to send me jewelry all the time. 

As I said, it's just a thought that has gone through my mind and a few other mens minds that I know that know about the situation. 
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Re: MLC script V
#69: November 20, 2014, 04:24:39 PM
I've wondered the same thing..at first i thought he might be gay....actually I think he might be asexual.
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