[twiceburnt]

I also remember two other stories.  One was from PP forum, and the other was an acquaintance of my W and her real friends.

1) From PP - A guy wrote in that his W had an MLC and married the OM. 4-5 years later, she was at a wedding reception with OM, and she texted her original H about how much she hated her life, her new H was abusive, etc. and that she missed him.  He had already moved on and was engaged to someone else.  He didn't even respond...Karma is a B#*#$.

2) I completely forgot about this, mainly because I only heard about the tail end of it.  But a mutual acquaintance of my W and her best friend (at the time - probably her real BFF) had an MLC, left her H, and pretty much slept with anything that resembled a man.  A few years later, she tried to get him back, but he refused.  Too much damage had been done.

So in summary, yes, I do believe most will try to come back...but it is up to us in the end.  This is a lot of pain, financial destruction, etc. to get over.  As much as it hurts now and how much we would give anything to have them back...eventually resentment, etc. sets in.

[toughtimes]

My MiL had a MLC at around 37, she started cycling with a group and started an affair with one of the guys. She went off every weekend and some holidays. After a few years she went to her H and asked that they drop their lifestyle and they can get back to being a family, thinks there was more to it than just her MLC. Her H, my FiL said she was too late he had fallen in love with another woman in the village!!! So she wanted back but he had moved on.

[confused_but_trying]

I believe I said this earlier, but I believe that it will ultimately be our decision.  Hopefully our wives won't be gone long and cause too much pain and destruction.  I pray that my wife comes to God for help.  He can clear the fog from her mind in an instant.  Our boys don't mention their mommy when they are with me, but I know they are being affected by this.

[Split open and melt]

My XW said once...about 4 months post divorce, "I will never regret my decision to divorce you."

Was an odd thing to say since I hadn't brought that up at all or suggested she might. So she must have been thinking about it.

I said, "I sincerely hope not, otherwise all this pain you've caused me and the kids will have been for nothing."

[gillies9]

Having a live in sucks and yes I think they all try to come back trouble I'd we move on the resentment grows to a level that u hate them sad very dad

[nah]

I said, "I sincerely hope not, otherwise all this pain you've caused me and the kids will have been for nothing."

Great response!!!  Love it.

[MeNow]

I said, "I sincerely hope not, otherwise all this pain you've caused me and the kids will have been for nothing."

Great response!!!  Love it.

You are SO bad......

[Jackolar12]

Thank you all for your views of female mid life crisis return stories,why do they sleep around so much, it's no good for their reputations and they may catch something. It must be really embarrassing when the fog lifts and they see people are commenting on their past behaviours in a negative way.

[nah]

Hey,...maybe THAT'S why husband is a big, fat, leaver.
or
maybe that's why it took me ten minutes to replace him.  lol

[twiceburnt]

Thank you all for your views of female mid life crisis return stories,why do they sleep around so much, it's no good for their reputations and they may catch something. It must be really embarrassing when the fog lifts and they see people are commenting on their past behaviours in a negative way.

I have no idea.  I think they just keep chasing the "newness" of a relationship thinking everyday is supposed to be like that until the end of time (at least while they are in teenager/fog mode).  Or they keep jumping from guy to guy, hoping they find someone with all your traits because I think deep down they know they screwed up, but probably think there's no way we'd forgive them.  And since they usually end up with users and losers, the cycle continues. 

But, yeah, their reputation gets around.  When my W and I first got back together, we got lots of people snickering, talking under their breath, etc.  Women would look at me and shake their head, or if she wasn't around, ask me what I was thinking because "I could do so much better".  It is tough for sure, and I can't even imagine what my W was feeling.  She hid it well, but I'm sure she was embarrassed at the time.  The sad part is she's making it even worse now.  I was gracious enough to give her another chance, and she's doing it again.  Talk about destroying your reputation....