[Braveheart]

My point is most of them, regardless of their marital status, are in a mid life transition/crisis, peri-menopause or both....So why would any man who spent the last three to four years dealing with their X's crisis and rebuilt their life want to deal with that kind of drama again?

I am sure you nor anyone else male or female would want to deal with that again.

However on the flip side of that you are making it sound like death sentence.

Maybe no one wants to deal with an LBS that is also in crisis.
But I believe that once we are all healed and whole again a relationship at the end of our lives can be
better than anything you ever imagined and will help you live a long and healthy life.

SO the point becomes how do we get "healed and whole" ?

My point is if we do the work required, we can get healed and whole, but once done the odds of finding your female equivalent are slim dating 45+. It's been my experience most people do not do the work required and simply lurch from one bad relationship to another looking for "Soul Mates" that will complete them

[Braveheart]

Just an observation but it seems post MLC women aren't even in the running for you guys why?

There are loads of fit lovely ladies at my Pilates class over 55 who are pretty frisky and feisty

I know several like that I cycle/ski/canoe with, or attend the same social functions, but for me I don't feel any physical attraction for most women in that age group. The ones that I have dated, having coffee with them was more like going to a job interview than a date

[Seekingpatience]

Just an observation but it seems post MLC women aren't even in the running for you guys why?

There are loads of fit lovely ladies at my Pilates class over 55 who are pretty frisky and feisty

I know several like that I cycle/ski/canoe with, or attend the same social functions, but for me I don't feel any physical attraction for most women in that age group. The ones that I have dated, having coffee with them was more like going to a job interview than a date

LOL They were probably trying to suss out whether you were pre or post MLC

[elray]

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never once did I try to eat them

Arrgh so many puns so little time....

Glad to know you ain't a cannibal Thunder 

OMG -- LMAO!!!

The ones that I have dated, having coffee with them was more like going to a job interview than a date

BH --

Maybe you aren't doing it right.  I started an online dating profile just to get a vibe of what single life might be like.  I won't answer straight forward and it drives them crazy. 

"Do you make good money at your job?"
"I don't know, I'll ask my butler."
"No, seriously. How much money do you make?"
"Let's just say that my refrigerator box is the envy of the entire hobo community."

"So do you have many friends?"
"Are you kidding? I have all 10 seasons! Joey is my favorite."

Women want to evaluate you and figure out your SMV -- then make a hypergamy related decision on your attraction level.  Its natural.  Don't get angry about it -- once you understand the motivation, simply scramble the pattern.   The more you reveal, the more you drop in value. The interview date should be a dance -- where you maintain mystery and amusement.   Keep in mind this advice comes from a guy who's only done this in text -- in real life I haven't dated in over 20 years.

[bipolared]

I have no real desire to get out there but you guys are scaring the hell out of me.  Do all men really look at women this way?  If you met a 40+ woman who was attractive, fit, and sane would she even stand out?  I guess I can't blame you, given what you have been through and the women I know.  Even H says all the women he has met are "crazy ows" and stupid, spoiled daddy's girls.

[Dji76]

Attractive, fit, sane women stand out regardless of age imo.

[Braveheart]

Just an observation but it seems post MLC women aren't even in the running for you guys why?

There are loads of fit lovely ladies at my Pilates class over 55 who are pretty frisky and feisty

I know several like that I cycle/ski/canoe with, or attend the same social functions, but for me I don't feel any physical attraction for most women in that age group. The ones that I have dated, having coffee with them was more like going to a job interview than a date

LOL They were probably trying to suss out whether you were pre or post MLC

Who knows It doesn't bother me much anymore, I'm pretty comfortable on my own. I'd like a woman in my life, but I don't need one.

[Braveheart]

I have no real desire to get out there but you guys are scaring the hell out of me.  Do all men really look at women this way?  If you met a 40+ woman who was attractive, fit, and sane would she even stand out?  I guess I can't blame you, given what you have been through and the women I know.  Even H says all the women he has met are "crazy wh*res" and stupid, spoiled daddy's girls.

Sure they would stand out, but it's rare to find all that in one package

[Mac49]

There was a great line on the 2 1/2 men series when Alan decided to try online dating. The woman he met noted that Alan was single, Not gay, and employed which put him the top 1% of online daters.

I don't date anymore solely because available time when still having three minor children at home is minimal and the majority of women I've met and dated are looking for someone full time.

Again sorry ladies for the next comment, I'm attracted by your looks and assets, I keep coming back for the intimacy we generate as we spend time together.

Mac

[elray]

If you met a 40+ woman who was attractive, fit, and sane would she even stand out? 

Of course she would.   My sexual attraction radar would pickup a hot young 20 something faster -- but my brain and my emotions aren't going to be engaged in a meaningful relationship there. 

Regarding "all men are like this?" --yes we are visual creatures first (but not only).  I will point out something online dating has shown me -- women are too -- in one specific aspect -- physical height.  I'm a short guy -- while I can and do need to get myself into dating shape, there's nothing I can do about my height.   Women routinely say things in their profile like:  "I'm 5'5" and like to wear heals so be at least 5'10".   So returning to your question, in my honest opinion -- when I talk to guys one on one, they are worse than what you see here.  This is, after all, a mixed gender environment, with women checking in regularly.