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All we can do is laugh - it is pure insanity ;D
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Their you go.  The washing machine!  They'll never think to look there.  lol
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A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Their you go.  The washing machine!  They'll never think to look there.  lol

Do they even know what a washing machine is?  LOL  I think whatever you put in there will be safe for years to come!!!
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Me - 49
H - 50
D8; SS26
Alienator: Yes, OW, PA
BD1: 03/16
BD2: 05/16 - Leaves home & moves in w/OW
07/16: Comes home
BD3: 08/16 - Leaves home again & moves back in w/OW
08/16 - Filed for divorce
04/17 - Awarded sole physical & legal custody of D
08/17 - Legally separated
11/17 - OW kicks H out - H is hospitalized shortly thereafter and turns to me for support
12/17 - H starts talking to OW again
1/18 - H moves back in w/OW
"You got me, I'm cornered, my back to the wall , no bed of roses, ain't no bed at all, I'm walkin' the wire, I stumble and fall, I got the message but I ain't gonna crawl"...Comin' Under Fire by Def Leppard

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Sadly mine did all the laundry in our house. 
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Me 47
H 45
OW 10/16/15
BD 01/16 ILYBINILWY
S 17 S 15
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Mine took hardly anything. Of course his excuse was he had no place for it. He was living in a slide in truck camper in a garage bay. One he was renting for his side business. He did take a couple pictures of our kids at one point,but other than that ,that's it.
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Me 53
H (whatever he is) 55
D for financial reasons March 2012
Started seeing massive change over the summer 2012
Left end of October 2012
Started coming home thanksgiving 2013
Home now. March 2014
Believe ow is gone
Probably going through this for years
OW discovered Oct.23,2013,old GF from before we met at the age of 16!
Left again Oct. 20 2015
Came back two weeks later
Still here 01/17 not done yet
Home 2019,rebuilding

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Sadly mine did all the laundry in our house.
Jay...mine would do laundry...but it was usually only his own!!
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Me - 49
H - 50
D8; SS26
Alienator: Yes, OW, PA
BD1: 03/16
BD2: 05/16 - Leaves home & moves in w/OW
07/16: Comes home
BD3: 08/16 - Leaves home again & moves back in w/OW
08/16 - Filed for divorce
04/17 - Awarded sole physical & legal custody of D
08/17 - Legally separated
11/17 - OW kicks H out - H is hospitalized shortly thereafter and turns to me for support
12/17 - H starts talking to OW again
1/18 - H moves back in w/OW
"You got me, I'm cornered, my back to the wall , no bed of roses, ain't no bed at all, I'm walkin' the wire, I stumble and fall, I got the message but I ain't gonna crawl"...Comin' Under Fire by Def Leppard

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Strange things they say....
#86: May 17, 2017, 02:56:41 PM
I have days when I remember some of the things that H said to me during MLC.  I just saw the subject on another site.  I went through the nonsense of "we were growing apart" like a lot of people here did too.  One thing my H said that was so out of character for him was that I could find someone else.  According to him, there was a lady at work who was 45 and she ended up getting together with a co-worker who was 60. This was one of the most bizarre pep talks ever.  H was normally a jealous person and afraid someone else was going to take me away from him.  just wondering if anyone else had something to share about weird things their MLCer said to them during MLC.
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Re: Strange things they say....
#87: May 17, 2017, 03:03:42 PM
Well I have heard a lot of script stuff. Ilbinilwy... youre letting yourself go... i am not attracted to you anymore... we are not on the same page... we are off the tracks etc.

Umm... does "I'm tired of the yin and yang so our marriage is over" in an rmail count? Lol
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Re: Strange things they say....
#88: May 17, 2017, 06:16:27 PM
ILYBINILWY, read via text message he sent to his attempted OW

My life has no purpose

Nothing I buy makes me happy for more than a day

I'm just not happy.

If I stay I'm unhappy.  If I go you're unhappy.  What am I supposed to do

Moving out has led to hanging out with 20 year olds, bowling, drinking, hanging out in bars, going to casinos until 2am. 



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Me: 41
Ex H: 45

MLC started 2013-2014. BD x3 Jan-March 2017. EA confirmed.
He’s playing house with his much younger girlfriend and raising her kids while I am out living life on my Harley! 
PROUDLY AND HAPPILY DIVORCED

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Re: Strange things they say....
#89: May 17, 2017, 08:19:59 PM
Me: Why do you feel you need to leave? H: S doesn't sweep the floor  :o  I want a dog, I miss having a dog

I think we'll both be happier if I leave, I love you but I can't live with you, I feel like I can't live up to your standards, you don't need me anymore, I would take a bullet for you, nobody is gonna tell me what to do, I don't mind growing old with you, we've drifted apart, lose my number, I never want to be so distant with you that we can't talk (all within a week).
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