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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Valentines Day
#20: January 22, 2011, 08:40:35 PM
I know one couple that got remarried.  How many does everyone else know?  Does it really happen all the time?  I wonder if we are just trying to make ourselves feel better.  I'm looking for hope but wonder how much I'm kidding myself.
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Re: Valentines Day
#21: January 22, 2011, 09:08:32 PM
Don't know so much about getting remarried but I know 5 friends who have separated and are back together plus I have heard stories of others. Unfortunately, I also have many friends who are not back together so it's hard to tell.
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Re: Valentines Day
#22: January 23, 2011, 06:01:19 PM
Quote from: readytofixmyselffirst on January 22, 2011, 10:42:59 AM
I will celebrate Valentines with my daughters and if w wants to come she is more than invited. I did think of having chocolates and roses sent to my house from my w. With a card that says "Dearest Ready, you are the best thing that ever happened in my life. Hugs and Kisses." I would take the flower and candy give her a hug and say, "You are so sweet to do such a nice thing for me. " All's I got you was a card.

Her MLC mind would be so confused that she would not know what to say or do. I could see the gears clogging - when did I get him flowers and chocolates? How did this happen? HMMMMMMM. HMMMMM. I need an aspirin this thinking is giving me a headache.

The real thing is not to have any expectations at all and you will be just fine.

Ready...you are awesome...I think  I might send myself some flowers too...even if it IS only to confuse my H, lol...I'm worth it and deserve it...even if it is from myself...and so do you!

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Re: Valentines Day
#23: January 24, 2011, 12:03:33 PM
Rebel Yell:

    I know it is just a piece of paper (divorce) as I have been told this many times.  He is still my husband in my heart because I love him so much.  I don't know of any couples who have divorced/remarried even though I have heard stories.  I do have one very close friend who divorced and after one year her ex contacted her and they have been "friends" (platonic) for the past 10 years.  They do everything together and do not see other people. 
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Re: Valentines Day
#24: January 24, 2011, 01:43:14 PM
H absolutely hates going 'out' on valentines day.  We always did something at home or just went out a different day. 

I'm going to help D make a card for her daddy.  Probably will ask to have her that day and let her have a party with her cousins and a couple friends.  That way I get to have some fun with D.  H will either be working or out on a date with OW, so I think he will be fine with it. 

Think it will be the best thing for me, and a good excuse to make cupcakes.
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Re: Valentines Day
#25: January 24, 2011, 04:03:13 PM
Hmmm. Valentines' Day - fraught with potholes and landmines, LOL!!

I haven't decided... kinda waiting to see if my husband gives me a hint that we will celebrate at all... I don't really want to, because it's awkward, even though appears to be home. We love each other, but I don't see many cards that are appropriate for the situation we're all in....

Perhaps an act of service, such as a car wash or something generic, yet thoughtful, like a Barnes & Noble giftcard with a note "thanks for all you do... take some time for yourself and enjoy a new book!" or maybe a Starbucks gift card "Just a little treat to show you how much I appreciate all you do....". Instead of a card, maybe just a personal note - short and sweet! Those are ideas geared more for women, I think....

Any ideas for what to get a husband?
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Re: Valentines Day
#26: January 24, 2011, 04:09:59 PM
LG - What about a new towel? :)
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Re: Valentines Day
#27: January 24, 2011, 04:10:58 PM
I'm with Ready.... perhaps I buy myself yet another new pair of shoes. As a girl can never have too many!


Good one trusting!!!!  ;D
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Re: Valentines Day
#28: January 24, 2011, 04:14:12 PM
Quote from: trusting on January 24, 2011, 04:09:59 PM
LG - What about a new towel? :)
LOL!
What is his love language?  :o OK, whats second on that list then? :)
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Re: Valentines Day
#29: January 24, 2011, 04:39:42 PM
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LG - what about a new towel?

OMG!!! What is WRONG with me!! It was SO obvious!! ;D

"Dear Mr. LG, I thought for a very long time about what I could get you that would show you how deep my commitment and love for you is... nothing is too good for you, my sweet! Please hang your new towel next to mine on the towel rack so they will never be apart and I hope you think of me every time you use it! XO, and love you forever, LG" :-*
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